Defeating Executive Function Challenges: Home Edition
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I find I need my meds to last beyond Supper time. I need my brain to be calm so I have a better chance of actually sleeping. It’s a work in progress.
This video came out serendipitously the same week I had the epiphany I should be utilize my meds over the weekend because I go through so much worse yo-yo’s of energy-crash-energy-crash
For me concentrating and accomplishing goals for my paid job is much easier because there's a lot more external accountability. In my "spare time" I run a rabbit rescue (www.rabbitsinthehouse.org), and have a much harder time working on long term goals and projects for that, instead focusing almost exclusively on the day to day immediate stuff. The strategies I learned from the ADHD Rewired Coaching and Accountability are helping. Putting everything I'm learning into practice is an ongoing process. Learning to accept that is also a process. It's also helpful being part of a community where I can get ongoing reinforcement and keep learning. I'm working on setting goals and planning in all domains of life, work, health, home, family, relationships, rabbits.
This is such a mood. Between being told to take a break from meds, societal and internalized prioritization, and executive function impairments, I often don’t get anything other than work and some (but not all) of my chores done. I often burn out on any and all activities that aren’t work. And I am really struggling on how to cope and use skills to succeed outside work. I am so thankful that you are going to dedicate time for yourself and that you are also willing to share your experience with trying to build skills to “play” despite how hard play can be. Thank you for being honest about your feelings of discouragement and fear. I also loved how you talked about one of the activities outside of work being potentially making friends and expanding our circle of friends. I think difficulties around making and maintaining friendships is such an underrated challenge especially since we are social beings so not having friends impacts us negatively which makes us struggle more which makes it harder to handle the executive function deficits which results in making friends being even harder and then it spirals down and down more and more. I don’t know how to learn to prioritize making a circle of friends and then manage my ADHD and other struggles well enough to actually make it happen.
I've been trying to make more friends recently. It's difficult when you don't think of yourself as being "normal." I actually think my own particular brand of abnormality is pretty cool, but it's still difficult to relate to others, especially when you've got neurodivergence on top of noise sensitivity on top of an uncommon gender identity... I seek out my fellow "cool weirdos," but it's rare that I find a true connection where I don't feel like I'm constantly trying not to screw up.
Oh man, this one really hit home for me as well. Trying to make career and health stuff work has eaten up so much time I've basically had no social life at all for the past decade.
This one hit really hard 😢. Thank you for sharing. I needed this reminder today.
I really relate to this topic. I experience executive function deficit a lot, both at work and outside of work. I push myself here and there to get something done, but on weekdays it seems that I completely run out of gas by the time I get home. I've recently pulled out some of my old unfinished fiction and started working on it, so I'm finding at least one avenue where I can prioritize non-work projects. I've put other hobbies on the back burner, though, and often feel like I'm letting myself down for not spending time on them. But... why do I feel like I'm letting myself down? A hobby should be fun, something we do when we want to do it. We should feel okay if we jump between hobbies now and then. (Or from day to day, for that matter.) I've started using the task tracker on the Discord server once in a while, and that's helping. It's great to have a community of people who have a common frame of reference. I know I've said THANK YOU enthusiastically for previous videos, but I'm saying it again here. Your videos provide a unique type of support; they provide a very informative perspective on my situation--and I'm sure I speak for others when I say how grateful I am that you're doing what you're doing. By the way, I love the calming color scheme in your videos. Purple is an amazing color, isn't it?
This is a BIG hit for me. I don’t have a 9 to 5 job anymore … haven’t for years (semi-retired) but I have lots of volunteer jobs I do plus housework and family financial management. All my adult life, I have prioritized the ‘chores’ above all else. And so to this day I struggle make time for my fun projects and hobbies. I have to leave the house (camping trip or other vacation time or special event participation) to do things like: practice fiddle, kayak, bike ride, sing or dance, sew costumes. All these things are read for me to do at home, but they just don’t get done there. I’m going to talk to my therapist about how I can use my new ADHD tools (just diagnosed 18 months ago at age 64!) to maybe overcome this broken mindset.
BRILLIANT