a guide to flaming out: a complete sentence

Love this video in general, but also love those insights for you. <3 I hope this is also how you get better at listening to yourself when you should ;-) (a problem I ALSO know too well).

I love this video series so much. It still feels like it's talking to me. That will be because I did spectacularly flame out in 2025. So timely! <3

hi ian! im a chronic perfectionist going through an extended period of illness probably caused by overwork, not-saying-no, and the stuff i put my body through to cope. where i am there are ridiculous waitlists for therapy; during the period of my life spent waiting for that, ive been also loosely following how things are going with you over here. seeing this series is helping me develop tools and concepts and formulate ways and exercises to train my no-muscles up a bit more. seeing you talk about the anger at both taking space up for oneself and failing to take enough space for oneself, and how you're dealing with it, is helping carry me through the same feelings. the "experiment" of saying no is a concept i never, ever knew i needed, and now im not sure how i'll ever live without it. thank you i texted this to my partner a moment ago after having a panic attack earlier today on the metro about the volume of work i've scheduled for myself this week, and the embarrassment of cancelling things and also the shame of being visibly and audibly ill: "i am in a constant process of understanding how people can love and care for me even with failures and mistakes and moments of rest and unfinished projects and things i missed out on and time i 'Waste', and who i am during all those moments". i think as im typing this i really believe it. it's probable that when i fall asleep tonight i'll have forgotten that feeling, or lesson, or openness and go back to the same struggle. but im also finding that okay because i'm sure i'll remember that all again another time soon, and hopefully sooner and sooner, in intervals. best wishes as we both figure this out, a longtime fan p.s. i accidentally posted a version of this comment that ended with "the stuff i put my body through to cope", with no further elaboration, and deleted it in embarrassment. but it's actually kind of a funny thing to accidentally post, even in a vulnerable state! maybe i even hope you got a weird email notification or something that just ended like that, just for me

That NO game looks very therapeutic.

❤️ I love this so much. Also I think this might need to be this decade's video game purchase...

So far this series has been hitting me in the feels. I am exited to see where you take us. Thank-you.

Dude, you are a poet

I misspoke on the first line so there is an annoying shift from future to past tense, I will re-record this at some point.