LGBTQIA+: Gender & orientation Overhaul: Identities & Transition, In-Depth Orientations, Optional Auto-Assign, & more - Sims 4

i looooooove you thank you for everything you do!!

My Sim has an “ unexpected crush” but can’t “ decide to reconsider “ because it’s greyed out. They’re best friends and I even cheated and put romance at 100. It’s still greyed 🥺🥺

hello ! i have a sim that is FTM but the custom presets do not stick. is there any way to stop my sim from defaulting back to the EA presets after using custom ones ??

Hey boo ☺️ I love this mod. So when my trans sims went to get plastic surgery, the changes I made in cas do not appear in game. I tried to give my transwoman a more voluptuous shape and it reverts to the slim figure with no curves. Same with my transman; tried to make them more muscular and wide in cas but in game he is slim. Is that something I can fix in the settings or is that just how it is?

Hi, just wanted to let you know when adding the Better Exception mod to find a broken mod in my game, your LGBT mod pops up as 100% the reason...just wanted to make you aware!

hiya, i love this mod but i'm having an issue and i don't know if it's because of the new game update. my sims are refusing to woohoo with people they're in relationships with and i get the popup that the sim isn't attracted to masculine/feminine sims even when they have the bisexual or pansexual trait. is there something i can do to fix this?

Hey love this mod but I am experiencing an issue in gameplay and I am hoping it is just a setting that I have not set correctly or possibly missed. When I have my male sim transition all is fine until they get top surgery. At this point in attractions and other interactions in the game he is recognized as a female. Hopefully you can tell me its just a setting and how to fix this please?

Hi! Not sure if it's just a me problem (likely haha) but I've been getting an exception related to this mod: [BE Interceptor] BE intercepted this error from a separate mod log so that it can scan for the issue. (AttributeError: 'NoneType' object has no attribute 'spouse_sim_id') Love your mods, thank you for all the good work :)

Feature idea: the first time I tried to customize the auto-assignment percentages, I didn't see that the numbers have to be integers. I set some of them to 7.5, and I didn't notice what was wrong until I checked the MCCC exception log a couple of days later. How much effort would it be to give an error message when I save a setting if I'm setting it to an invalid value?

hi! i love this mod but the wording in settings has been confusing me, so i'd love some clarification. do my played sims need to have auto assign on for self discovery to happen? i hadn't encountered it yet when i had auto assign off for played sims, so i tried turning auto assign on and had one of my children age up and immidiately get the genderfluid trait with no discovery prompts. i'm not sure if i'm just misintepreting the settings amgmekg.

I had a sim with an unexpected crush. They confessed to their crush (and it was accepted). When I went to the romance interactions, there weren't any, not even grayed out. I feel I may have messed up a setting somewhere, and I can't figure out which one(s). Any ideas as to which setting(s) it could be? Maybe I am missing an additional mod I overlooked? When I manually change their orientation to be compatible with the crush, the interactions appear again. I also have RPO and WW installed, and I do not have MCCC Woohoo installed. For packs, I have all major except the new Enchanted pack.

Is there a update

hello im having issues with my trans sim being able to to change presets once done with hormone therapy, is there something im not doing correctly?

Hello! I wanted to ask, is there any way to limit unexpected crushes by the age of the sims involved? My teen sim got an unexpected crush on an elder 😭 I really loved that one of my active sims got a random unexpected crush, but the age difference was just way too creepy to let it happen! I read the mod description page and looked through the settings, but I didn't see anything about age (although I might have missed it--if that's the case, sorry for the unnecessary question!).

Hi, I'm having an issue where I'm getting an error saying the Tuning script is bad for the mod. I've deleted it and redownloaded but it's still happening. Any ideas what I can do to resolve it? Thank you!

Hi Lumpinou, I am having an issue when my sims woohoo their traits changes to celibate, asexual, and graysexual and throws an LE. These are not their assigned traits. I have mccc friendlier woohoo disabled and I have the updated RPO and LGBTQ mods installed. I removed the settings file, cleared my caches and the issue persists. I am stumped.

I had the same issue as Nectotic Witchery with my sims. I tested with no other mods and it kept happening. Kept getting the "not interested in a sim they aren't romantically compatible with" pop up no matter what I did (I went as far as testing to make them both pan and no dice). I ended up having to uninstall the mod and you know how much I love this one so that was painful. I am happy to send you a save file for you to review; let me know.

Hello Lumpinou, I have a bug where my male sim attracted to feminine sims has romance options still pop up for his friend in game when in settings I have the option checked: "Grey out interactions if other speaker doesn't fit Speaker's Orientation" plz help. Thanks. P.S. Romance and Friendship option to block / decide not to develop romantic feelings for a sim causes a LE to pop up.

Just noticed the mod does not work on Sim Ghosts...

this is the first mod i look for after the patch

Hello, would it be possible to add a notification if a Sim my Sim knows makes some orientation/identity change, or an autonomous 'Tell About Identity and Orientation' targeted to my Sim? My Sim was FWB with a female Sim and when I went to invite them over they'd changed their name and pronouns. I loaded into their house to do some gender-affirming stuff for them but I was just confused because their name had changed lol

Hi, , my sim is trans(femme to masc) and had top surgery but now when they get busy (wicked whims style) it makes them have on pants the entire encounter, did i do something wrong maybe?

I'm not sure if something broke with the Oct. 2, patch, but my sims will no longer woohoo with each other. I've taken all my mods out and narrowed it down to an issue with the LGBTQIA mod. I first replaced MCC and tested out. The woohoo interaction worked just fine. Then I put the LGBTQIA mod back in and ran into issues. I'm getting 'This sim is not interested in Woohoo due to not interested in woohoo with women' when my lesbian sim tries to Woohoo with her spouse. I'm also getting this with my heterosexual couples. Right now, the only mods I have in my game are MCC and the LGBTQIA mods. I don't know if anyone else has run into this or if it's just my rotten luck. I do have the 2.3v of the LGBTQIA mod installed. I double and tripled checked that just to be sure.

hi! sorry if i missed this information elsewhere, but with negative reactions on, do i have control over which sims will have negative reactions? i want realistic gameplay but i don't want sims to be randomly homophobic if it isn't in line with the character i've given them

hi, I am having some problems with assigning the gender and orientation. When I click on my sim the gender and orientation does not show up on the wheel for me to select so I assign. It shows up in my old saves but I am making a new one and it will not show up. I have taken the mod out and put it back in even tried to make another new save but it still does not show.

Hey, not wanting to disturb too long. I just wanted to mention an observation I've had with the Mod. Ever since the latest patch update to the game last week my sims despite being compatible before the patch will no longer allow their romantic partner any form of kissing after said patch. Removed the Mod to make sure if it was it causing this issue and it went away when removed from the Mod Folder. Just thought to mention it just in case. Wish you a continuing good week in the meantime. 😊

hi! where may i find latest update for LGBTQIA Mod?

Hello when was the last update?

Hi, I tried posting this to your discord but I'm blocked for some reason (I just subscribed to you here). I'm noticing that when I go into settings for this mod and put "0" for the % of NPC sims set to aromantic and asexual, then *all* of the NPC sims become aromantic and asexual. Is that because you haven't allowed for it to be set to 0? Or because I'm misinterpreting the meaning of the setting? Or maybe there's a mod conflict or something?

Why isn't the phobic trait working? Im doing a storyline with two lesbian teens and their parents are awful and homophobic so they run away together. I gave them the traits but i don't know why it's not working

Not sure if you already answered this question, but do you happen to have a copy of MonoChaos’ functional binder cc? Or do you know of any binder cc that’s compatible with your mod?

Hi, I don't know if it is an intended feature or a bug, but I've changed the settings to auto-assign identities and orientation for everyone, and I've noticed that those who were assigned to be trans had already changed names and bodies. I would have liked to do it through gameplay so I was wondering if it's possible to modify this?

I don't know anything about modding and have no idea how difficult it might be, but would it be possible that trans teen sims would need to ask for their parents permission before going on HRT or doing gender-affirming surgery and if they say no you get options to convince them and until then you can't do it? I just feel like that would make the gameplay more realistic :3

Hi! This mod is awesome. I'm using it for the first time with a trans masc sim. They've gotten to the third stage for HRT (saying they can grow body and facial hair). Their body hair is coming in fine, but I can't seem to find where I would manipulate/change/select for facial hair. Any advice would be much appreciated. Thank you ~~

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Thank you for all the mods you create. I don't think I would be playing The Sims 4 if it wasn't for your mods and those of other creators. I have a question / feature request regarding the LGBTQIA+ mod. I play the game on long lifespan and I was wondering if it would be possible to make the gender-affirming options (like the hormone replacement therapy and voice therapy) take longer? It would be great if the player could set the length, like the pregnancy length in MC Command Center, but making the options take, for example, twice as long when playing on a long lifespan would be great as well. I have no idea how hard it would be to make a change like this, but I hope you can take a look if it is something you can and want to do.

Is this mod up to date?

Just wanted to give you a headsup that the monochaos link to download isnt working. It leads to the page but the link to download on the site is going to a mirrror website that doesnt have the file anymore. Do you possibly know of an alternative place to download the file?

How do I give my sim the option for reassignment surgery? it's just showing to opt for non medical transition like speech therapy and walk classes. on a premade sim they have the bottom and top surgery traits but im confused on how to gain them.

one thing i've had with this is my Sim after bottom surgery still has a penis. In CAS she doesnt but in game she does. Not sure if theres a fix for that?

I keep gettig a BE error with this

Love this mod; would just like to suggest when Sim has realization, perhaps a rabbit hole or phone/pc option to get 'counseling' or go to a 'support group' to help work it out.

Thank you so much for this amazing mod ! Its exactly what i needed I love it. I have a, maybe stupid, question, sorry! I enabled all of the automatic settings and i want to know if it only sorty the traits automatic to all sims or if there is a time where it sorts it new every few days7week? Because i enabled it and will now check on all my hoseholds what it gave to the sims and will change it manually for some sims. and i dont want it to change for this one but i want it to manually give them when family members grew up to teenagers or if the game generates new sims. sorry for the bad english btw

I absolutely love this mod! Just one small problem I've been experiencing with it. When a sim gets an unexpected crush, they're unable to reconsider their orientation even if their friendship bar with the sim they're crushing on is all the way maxed out. Do you know if it might be a potential conflict with another one of my mods, or if its a problem with this one itself?

I love this mod, but I have noticed a small issue. When my female sim transitions to male, I'm not able to modify the sim's body anymore. I can change clothes with no issue, but after making changes to the sim's body (change shoulder size etc...) in CAS it just reverts back in live mode. Any ideas what could be causing this?

I have been waiting to download this until it was out for a while and now is so the time because I just saw someone else using it. Then realized I wasn't a patreon to you?! I use so many of your mods I feel like a CRIMINAL for waiting for them to be public release. Love your work!!

hi! i've downloaded the mod and followed all the steps but the pie menu still doesn't show up for me? I have MCC and other mods installed and they seem to run fine--any help would be appreciated!

Hi there, So I have a stupid question. My teen sims are no longer getting the lgbtqia pie menu option. Is this a change? or a bug, or am I just imagining that they had this option? O.O''. I did remove the 'localthumbcache' in my sims folder, and I removed the old mod and updated it with the new. but it didn't help. Thank you for your time :)

Hi there! So I just downloaded the new version of this mod, but now my Meet and Mingle mod doesn't work at all. I tried doing what you said and deleting the global settings thing out of my saves, but all that did was delete all the orientation and identity settings I had for all my Sims. 😅

I love this mod so much! It's added a lot more depth to my gameplay. I just got my first genderfluid sim though and am having some issues with the genderfluid-specific features. I think the idea is great, especially with the changing pronouns and outfits option. Once my sim had the trait, they started out "NB-leaning" (gender-neutral outfit and they/them pronouns) and everything was going smoothly. While they slept I got an alert that their fluid identity had shifted to "fem-leaning" and they went about their next day using she/her and wearing the fem outfits. This was all going great until I noticed they hadn't shifted in a few days and I was still curious. There's an option to manually select the identity the sim is leaning toward so I used that and input "2" for masc and nothing happened. There wasn't a notification and the pronouns and outfit didn't change. The manual selection option always displays a "now" message for the way the sim is currently leaning and it did say masc, but that was the only difference I noticed. I switched it manually to NB-leaning and the result was the same. When I switched it back to fem-leaning, it gave me the alert that the pronouns and expression had "changed". Is there a way I can get it to work normally and auto-switch to any identity and not just fem? This sim is afab so maybe that has something to do with it? I'm not sure; any help is appreciated :)

I didnt get any message from this mod.

Hi, You would go to 'make quick assignments' then 'gender identity only' and assign the one that fits best :)

Hi, my sim just discovered they were trans (so exiting, the first time its happened for me). BUT - they were afab, and now when it says they are trans it's keeping them as a female instead of changing to male. Is there some way to change that without changing the trans trait?

Hi I really love this mod! I'm struggling to get the 'match romantic and sexual orientations' setting to work, seems to be particularly common in married Sims, like a sim thats married to a woman might be listed as bisexual but romantically only attracted to women. Is there any other settings I might have changed to make this happen?

Hello! I am wondering if it is possible for NPCs to come out on their own without having to play them? My sims NPC girlfriend won't tell them her identity and orientation even though they're max relationship, so I think she might be in the closet.

hi, ive downloaded the mod but none of the pie options come up when i click my sim.. is there something i have to do in order to see the options?

hi, i love this mod and i've had so much fun using it though out my saves however, i've run into a bit of a problem. my teenage sim can't come out to their parents. this is most likey an error on my end but i tried to troubleshoot to issue but nothing has worked so far, so i was hoping you could help.

Hello! I've noticed that the "Go On 'Meet&Mingle' Date with Matched Sim" Doesn't work and my sim will be frozen in place unless I reset them, is the incompatibility with the MC woohoo or is it something else?

Thanks again for your mods. Hope all is well. Just checking in because for some reason I've noticed when I set my lot trait to LGBTQIA+ hangout people show up to the area but never come inside or they show up and just leave. Any suggestions?

Hello again! I gotta share, the mod did it again, but this time, sadly, from the other direction. I allow potential negative responses and last night when they aged up my new heirs twin got the "phobic" trait. This is a sim with a non binary parent who uses the parental title "Nobi", they/them pronouns, and while mostly presents in dress congruent with their birth gender does wear accessories traditionally associated with the opposite sex. Now my brain is spinning on how to handle the situation in a realistic manner. I would like to save the parent/child relationship, but I have to be honest that my teen will struggle. This mod is really helping me grow, making me think about angles I never explored. Thank you again 😊

I've just downloaded the mod and I love the concept so much! I've found that using the meet n mingle app causes the game to crash. Is this a known issue? Edited to add: I disabled 'no strings' in MC Woohoo and I was able to use it once, but on requesting a new match I got the force close again.

why there are no options for medical transition options (like top and bottom surgeries)?

Hi hope you feeling better, my played sim is straight but he keeps trying to flirt with male sims that are also straight. Have I got something wrong in settings as my sims traits say attracted to females only..

Bonjour, votre mod est juste incroyable mais pour une raison que j'ignore il ne s'active plus sur mon jeu même si je supprime tous mes mods et que je re crée une partie complètement. tous les autres de vous fonctionnent mais pas celui ci, est ce qu'il y a quelque chose à faire que je fais mal ?

Hey, I don't know if anyone else is having this problem, but I'm not getting a notification when my sims ask other sims what their opinion is, what orientation is, or even what their pronouns are. I've re-downloaded the mod, I even took all my mods out except for this one. I also look at all my settings and can't figure out what is wrong. Please help.

Hi, sorry to bother you. I have translated it in my patreon and also shared to Taiwan SIMS game community. My primary translation is Traditional Chinese. Attach the patreon translation link to you, only the Chinese translation file will be released. Thank you for your hard work in making high quality mods. Link : https://www.patreon.com/posts/70536025 You can deal with it when you come back from rest. I wish you a nice holiday. :)

Hi- The link to the Monochaos cc does not lead anywhere. It looks like they have quit simming according to a post on their blog and won't maintain their cc.

Hope you have had (are having?) a restful break! Thanks for the update, appreciate how you are always so on top of things and prompt to fix issues!

Absolutely love this mod, I might be missing something obvious but where do I find the Meet and Mingle app?

Is there a way to allow your male sim to have top surgery and keep his natural genitalia area? I don't want to rush his transition in my storyline.

I'm not clear what the settings file is relevant to- individual assigns, global settings, both. It seems with each update we have to delete the settings file and I'm not clear what I have to redo. Thank you for this update. Hope your hands are getting better!

Hi! love this mod so much it adds so much to gameplay and is so fun to play with! quick question though I have a sim that is queer and has the added trait of "in the closet" but I can't seem to find how to they can come out am I missing something? I have the option for the sim to tell others about there orientation and identity but it doesn't change the in the closet trait or give any moodlets or pop ups. Im a bit confused haha.

Im getting errors from this mod today. Do I need to remove it from the mod folder or is it ignorable? Heres the error (wont attach the entire thing but heres the important bits). Possible Cause (Confidence: 100%) \Lumpinou_LGBTQIA_Mod_v1.5_July26\Lumpinou_LGBTQIA_Mod_v1.5.package Reason Exception occurred while attempting to populate a repeated field: (AttributeError: 'tuple' object has no attribute 'influence_by_active_mood')

As I mentioned in an another post, I'm new to the mod. So far, I love everything and I thank you for sharing your talent. I wondered if it would be possible to add some hot spot lot traits for specific orientations; Gay men, Lesbians, Transgender, etc. It would be so great if it were easier to find like sims. I admit I don't fully understand the "special nights" as described for the current lot trait but I would prefer if I could designate certain lots for certain orientations / identities. Thanks again for this brilliant mod! Hugs!

Maybe I'm just dumb, but how do I fix the settings is it in game?

Hi, just wanted to say as someone who got this mod during early access, I really am incredibly happy to have supported your mod making because this mod has made me happy in ways i would have never expected from a game. I've been playing a legacy challenge recently, but still rotationally checking in on my spares' families and my twins aged to teens just now and turns out one is a trans man [they/them] (not to mention t4t! a lovely addition) and the other a trans woman [she/her] and it was such a pleasant surprise as a trans man myself seeing their new names and having them come out to their extended family; i really was on the verge of tears tbh. So thank you so much for this mod! I'll gladly continue to support your content <3

So I have been playing with this and noticed two sims so far that are listed as transgender. They have masculine body, masculine clothing type, pee standing up and can get women pregnant. But they have breasts. So im not sure if its that they should be using a female clothing type or if they shouldn't be able to get people pregnant. Is it possible for the mod to do checks like that when it gives someone the transgender trait? But over all I love this mod. And im so excited to see where it can go after after they add the updates to the game. Awesome mods

Hey, is it possible to let us choose all the extra traits we want in one go rather than one at a time? I do not enjoy having to click through the menues two times to make my sim out and queer.

A dating app would be great! I used to use lilsimsie’s simDa dating app but it doesn’t respect gender preferences so oftentimes my sim would end up on a date with someone who wasn’t interested in him lol.

Hi Lumpinou, First off, I wanted to thank you for such a wonderful mod. I know the sims community is filled with LGBTQIA+ simmers and it's wonderful to be able to reflect that more accurately in our own games. I wanted to ask if you had ever thought about creating a "gay hotspot" lot trait or even just a general "LGBTQIA+ hotspot" lot trait that I could apply to a lot that would prompt primarily LGBTQIA sims to spawn. I've been trying to create a world that generally reflects real life, so my LGBTQIA sims are generally about 10% of my total townie population. This sometimes makes it difficult for my sims to find a partner or even just a simple hookup without just wildly asking everyone their orientation. I'd love if, just like real life, I could make my own gay bars or nightclubs where sims could meet likeminded folk. There was another LGBT mod I think that was missing a lot of your features, but this is one thing they did well and that I think would be a good addition. Thanks again, Zach

quick question, I'm trying to turn on negative reactions but I cant find the setting in game or in the settings file how do I turn the setting on?

Do any of the religions from Rambunctious Religions impact reactions if neutral/negative reactions are turned on?

I just have to say, I've loved your mods for a while, and this one is absolutely one of my favorites, if not my absolute favorite! I've been hoping for a mod like this for a long time, and it does everything that I've always hoped for. Thank you so much for this amazing mod!

Quick question. I tried this mod when it first came out but removed it from my game because it had my already married sims or sims already in relationships refusing romantic interactions with each other due to incompatibility. It says this version takes already married or partnered sims relationships into consideration when auto applying. Was this not in the previous version or did I do something wrong last time? I have downloaded the new version and am about to put it into my mod folder.

Thank you so much for this! Especially the inclusion of asexuality 💜

Hi I have a question, I was trying to update the LGBTQIA mod & I noticed I had other files such as: Global settings and then gender identities, do I delete those?

Thanks that’s what I though I’ll keep looking

Hi and thank you for this mod … I do have a question regarding setting up and compatibility of the MC no strings woohoo I can’t seem to figure out where the setting is to turn off

Thank you for the update! Was this mod originally incompatible with "Better Romance" and is now compatible? (Or am I mistaking this mod for a different mod...)