DIRECTOR'S CUT: Therapist Reacts to UP and Grief
How do you find happiness and purpose in life after loss?
Licensed therapist Jonathan Decker and filmmaker Alan Seawright are both crying because they’re reacting to Pixar’s Up. They talk about Carl’s reluctance to move on and find a new life without Ellie, and they cry watching the montage about their life. They talk about Pixar’s perfect screenplay and physical comedy, and they cry about that. They discuss how life can continue after loss, finding new joys and purpose, and Jonathan almost leaves and lets Alan do the show by himself because Up is his kryptonite.. Oh, and Michael Giacchino’s heart-wrenching score makes them cry too.
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Brian Blessed, who voiced the Gungan King, said every time he did that jowl sound, George Lucas told him, "You know, you just cost me $70,000 to animate that."
I finally worked up the courage to watch this one. Thank you guys. It didn’t disappoint. ❤️
I'm going through an amicable but 100% unexpected divorce. I've watched this video at least a dozen times to try and remind myself that there can be hope again. I just hope that there is another person out there for me.
Damn you, Pixar, I'm crying in the trailer before the intro of the video
Finally watched this episode. Thank you, Cinema Therapy. This is an episode that took me inside my own memories so much, I had to keep rewinding to see what I missed.
They even animated the stubble on his chin to look so real! I say this because my grandpa had it, and when we would give him a hug, or a kiss on the cheek we could feel it scratch our cheek. That may sound weird, but it is a vivid and endearing memory of my grandpa. I look at these two and I see my grandparents. Man, I am so lucky to have had them in my life… well my heart feels like it’s been torn out… Thanks, Pixar.
I remember watching Disney Pixar’s UP in the cinema , there wasn’t a dry eye in the cinema all I could hear was sniffing and crying not just from myself 😅 I had over six boxes of tissues and a spare bag I was handing and passing the tissues round the cinema surprisingly all boxes went round everyone 😅 after the movie was finished I held the bag open for everyone to stick there tear and snot soaked tissues into couldn’t get over how heavy the bag was 😅 this movie was an absolute masterpiece big Michael Giacchino fan brilliant composer 👌☮️💚🥹
I lost both of my parents and it was a struggle. Between April and June, that is the time I struggle the most. Everything associated with my parents (their birthdays , when they both passed away,Mother's Day & Father's Day); all of that happens during that time. That is the time I isolate myself as much as I can and take it one day at a time. I do work, sure, but afterwards, the memories are what get to me. Up still makes me cry to this day. I know grief is something we all go through. I just protect my soul by getting through it alone (although this year I have a therapist helping me to work on my grief and not to be afraid to share)
six minutes in and i'm in tears. i always forget how hard the beginning of this film GETS ME.
I kindly request subtitles... ^_^
We have them on our YouTube videos! The only reason we don't have them here is because Patreon doesn't support them yet. But they say it's coming soon as it's a highly requested and necessary feature.
Does anyone know the Intro/Outro music they use in their videos?
When I saw this, the first thing that popped into my head was "Welcome to the episode where they're both going to cry. A lot. Non stop." All the love, I cried my eyes out like a baby when I first watched this movie.
I had already destroyed a tissue before the opening. Now 5 tissues later, I will find happiness by putting up my Christmas tree
When this show came out my 9 month old daughter was about to have a bone marrow transplant to hopefully cure her cancer. I had not left the hospital in months. I also hadn't cried, and I knew I needed to. I'd heard about this movie on the radio and thought it might be the catalyst I needed. So I got someone else to stay with my baby and went to the show. Boy was I right. I was a mess and sobbed, but really needed it. I got all my crying out so I could be strong for my daughter through what turned out to be a rough next two years. I haven't been able to watch the show again since then. Thank you for doing this show and reminding me what a great movie it is.
And can we talk about Ed Asner?!
Yes! Who else can play a (lovable) grumpy old man and Santa Claus?
You guys should do an episode on TBI and/or memory loss
So happy you did this movie. Can’t watch now. Glad it’s here for the future.
You guys lived up to this one 👏🏽👏🏽👏🏽 one of the best episodes yet
Also might I request Klaus on Netflix. That movie is phenomenal.
I agree!!
This movie helped me move on after my cousin passed away. It honestly made me think “if he can do it, so can I”
A perfect movie - that also made the word SQUIRREL into eternal shorthand for ADHD. Thank you, Pixar.
It's iconic!
Just casually sobbing on my lunch break. Thanks, guys! 😂😭 Don’t worry, I pulled it together for my next meeting. 😛
I mean I'm more like Alan in that everything will make me cry...but yeh if something is genuinely beautiful and more tender it adds that feeling over overwhelm that I have trouble dealing with. If something is beautiful as well as sad it's like someone caused a wound with the sadness but the beauty added salt to it. It's healing but it hurt...so more likely to make me cry. Fine pixar just double punch me immediately. Thanks a lot. I'm glad this movie is healing for you.
Request for grab bag of mystery: Alan's list of perfect screenplays
I'm so glad this got the pick! For the first time ever this year, I lost a close friend to a sudden death, and I think about her a lot and all the things that we wanted to do and couldn't. I know she'd be proud of me even though I'm not doing the thing I initially thought I would do when we first met, and I like to think she's laughing at me from the afterlife while I cry like a teeny tiny baby over this movie.
Iposted this as a comment, but wanted to break it out so people can post their ideas and requests for songs and shorts. :) There are some seriously legit music videos that are basically shorts, as well as shorts by Pixar like Bao, Luna, Lava, etc. Could we request reaction to those, CT? Pretty please?? My thoughts: 1. Hurt by Johnny Cash 2. This Was Just a Dream by Carrie Underwood 3. Anymore, Tell Me I Was Dreaming, & If I Lost You by Travis Tritt 4. Pixar / Disney shorts - Far From the Tree (TALK ABOUT generational trauma!! To me, this is what God & Moses are talking about in Exodus about the sins and blessings being passed from generation to generation.) as well as the others listed above. :)
I love 'Up', but I totally skip the beginning now; I don't want to ugly cry at the START of a movie, that's just embarrassing (side-eye to the 'Lion King', that opening song makes me cry every time too).
Ah back to the Erikson stages, Ego Integrity vs. Despair. Carl was definitely stuck in despair.
Legit went and got some sleep, got a box of tissue and a coffee, mentally prepared myself, and then clicked play.
Did that help?
"Is your soul not moistened?" I am dead with that. Needed that laugh after the tears. My dad was 84 and passed away last year just before Christmas. The time I was able to spend with him was so priceless and this movie has hit in a different way thinking about my mom being a widower and me without my dad. I miss him a lot and Carl has some things that remind me a lot about him. Damn you Pixar.
I think that's one of the reasons I avoid this movie... I lost my Papa when I was 10.. and Grandma when I was 35. 25 years without the person who completed her, and yet she lived through it, learned how to live on her own, and still enjoyed life thoroughly until the end. ❤️
gee thanks!
As soon as Carl pins the Ellie badge on Russell I lost it. My soul WAS moistened 😭
Every pore!
Possibly the most quoted line in all of cinema history -- "squirrel"!!
Lol. Especially with my kids. - Jonathan
Reminds me of the old episode in MASH where BJ is grieving being away at war while is tiny daughter grows up. After he wallows alot and is mean to all around him Hooligan calls him out and says, "Maybe you've lost alot, but its only because you've got the most!" He learns to count his blessings.
What a beautiful idea. - Jonathan
So after this I went and re-watched some more Cinema Therapy videos, cried some more, then I watched Johnny Cash’s Hurt. I’m DONE crying today, guys. I’m watching the Addam’s Family CT video next. No more tears for me today! Tear duct workout is done! Thanks, Alan and Jonathan for the hard work.
Yeah, Addams Family is a good palatte-cleanser. So much fun!
Ugh...I thought your Inside Out reaction got me, but this one got me GOOD! It has been a while since I've watched Up, and I both want and don't want to rewatch it. Such a good movie!!!
It's a freaking knockout.
I saw the notification for this, saw it was UP and said, “damn you, Cinema Therapy!” 😂😂😂 because I knew I was going to snot all over myself . Thank you for never disappointing :)
I feel you. This shoot took it out of me like no other. - Jonathan
“Emotional Vulnerability is just Satan” That sounds like something my mom would say. 😝🫣Who needs validation, ammirite? But literally, when I try to explain my mental health, she actually has said multiple diff occasions, “That’s just Satan”. Sooo, I’m his fav vacation home at this point.
Yikes. - Jonathan
You're right to talk about the scene with the photos but my favourite has always been the one right after, where Carl tosses out all his old stuff (except for the weather vane and the sheets as he still needs them) and the house flies again.
The symbolism is so rich in this movie. - Jonathan
1) My partner and I are currently separating after 5 years together. Although we both hoped to grow old together like Ellie and Carl, we've run into some incompatibilities that tell us it's time to move to the next adventure. I'm sad, I'm grieving, it sucks, and this episode was both an excellent catharsis for getting some tears out and a loving reminder that there is life after loss and it can still be amazing even if it didn't turn out the way you'd hoped. 2) Sophie, can we have a montage video of all the weird sounds Alan and Jono have made throughout the show? #herbahbahbahbahbah
I'm so sorry. I'm sure that's incredibly hard. Hoping for good things for you to come! -Jonathan
After working in a senior living facility this movie hits home. It also reminds me of my grandparents who are still alive. Making connections with the elderly is one of the most interesting experiences in life. I recently just left my job at the senior facility do to my morals being put into question and the hardest part was knowing I was leaving the residents and some of them I may never see again. I love this movie and everything about it. It's just one of those perfect family movies that not only tells a great story, but also teaches you a great lesson and I'm grateful for that. I think part of the reason we all love disney and Pixar so much is they just have a great way of telling stories and relating to people and life. Thanks disney and Pixar for all the wonderful movies you have brought us. (Now start making more of these movies instead of live action remakes please!)
Alan is currently working on his next movie :) I used to volunteer at senior living facilities. It fed my soul. - Jonathan
Damn you, Cinema Therapy, er, Pixar!
Lol. We'll take it!
I lost my dad a little over five weeks ago. And… idk if y’all are religious or not but y’all two and this vid really feels like it’s Him going ‘hey, it’s gonna be okay, I know it’s hard rn, you’ll get though this’. Thank you for this. This helped me a lot.
Man... Pixar made a love story deeper and more true in one montage than Disney ever did in a two hour movie!! There's such richness to an entire life together, with all of its ups and downs.
I know I'm gonna cry so much at this episode 😭😭
Oh goodness, I don't know if I'm prepared for this... 😶
