Therapy Deep Dive: The Invisible Conversation

This episode on "The Invisible Conversation" was so powerful — thank you, Jono! 🫶 From a psychological standpoint, carrying unspoken words or unresolved emotions acts like an anchor dragging behind us, slowing our progress without even realizing it. This technique allows us to safely release that emotional weight by imagining a raw conversation with someone (even if they're no longer here), which helps clear mental space for healthier interactions later. It's especially useful when we're overwhelmed by anger but still want to prepare for a productive talk — writing it down first can be just as healing. 📝 Many therapists use similar methods because acknowledging grief, regret, or hurt in a private, safe way reduces how much those feelings control our daily lives. Whether through Ben Solo releasing his pain toward his father or anyone processing loss, naming what's stuck helps us finally move forward. 💙 Sometimes we just need to lift the anchor to find our light again. ✨

Yes I have done and do this exercise a lot. I speak with my mom who has passed to express all the things I wish I had said. I do this when I’m mad too, just like you, to vent the bad version of the conversation before I attempt the better version of the conversation. I also do this to talk to my younger self about the things I regretted doing, to try TRY to alleviate guilt that’s weighing on me. I do these imaginary convos to test my resolve or explore my feelings about something that might happen if I make a certain choice.

I will do this but if I'm really mad it doesn't help me calm down. So if I'm in that state, I get a workout in, and then I can organize my thoughts more clearly.

I struggle to think things quietly. Speaking my thoughts out loud helps me organize my thoughts and put them in a context that allows me to respond to them. I wish I did this method more as an angry teenager with my mom or family. But as an adult I have done this exact thing with my friends, coworkers and partners to have better more productive conversations.

I still don’t feel safe most of the time, so I write stuff like this down instead of saying it out loud. It feels like it still helps, though maybe not as much. Thank you Jono

Oh, yes I have done this all the time. The first time it was to my abuser, and I felt so much better afterwards that I have continued to do it with those who have passed, those I don't want to be physically present with for my mental health. It keeps me sane