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If I may say, don’t interact with him, don’t reach out and ask him to stop. You are in a very difficult position because you can’t fully block him but moving forward don’t acknowledge this again online. Any little bit of recognition on your part keeps obsessive people going. I’m so sorry you are dealing with this! What he wants is a reaction and to be noticed by you, because you are public online the only thing to do is hold out until he moves on to someone else that is more entertaining to torment.

I'm so sorry to hear it Sofie. I do threat assessment and violence response work, especially around stalking, relationship violence, and other gender-based violence. I'm not sure what state you are in, but there are victim advocates who can point you toward resources and present you with all of your options (reporting, civil protection order, safety planning, etc.). Happy to consult with you or get you connected to support.

NAh I swear....these dudes be wildin. They see a pretty girl and their brains turn upside down. And they never even tried to help their mental health. Just repeating the circle. From grandparents, to parents and now to them. If you need anything just write up. I can help up with designs (posters, banners, thumbnails, etc) to these types of things. Wish you the best.

Ugh I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this on top of everything else. We’ll keep an eye out. You have community here and are loved by so many. I hope Patreon can do the right thing and help you permanently block this guy. You work so hard to bring joy to people. Don’t let one a-hole steal your passion for this work. Take whatever time you need and I’m sure your community will stick beside you.

Dude...

If you still need some people, I am willing!

I'm so sorry you're going through this. Please let us know if there is anything we can do. Unwanted attention can be a truly terrifying experience, and, as much as I love your videos and posts, please do not feel guilty or bad that you are not putting out new stuff right now. You come first. If you need to step away for a while, do so. I know I'll miss you, but fun reactions are not nearly as important as your emotional, mental, and physical well being. I'm not sure if you need any further help, but I'll definitely keep an eye out in the comments for you.

Wow that’s scary - it’s a good thing you told your fans so we can try to help keep an eye out. Keep a record of everything and consider going to the police if it increases. Sadly that’s always the first step that has to be taken to even be taken seriously with stalkers. If it gets to it the police can actually do an IP address check, and if you’re getting any kind of threat I’d encourage you taking this to the Police. I’m so sorry you’re going through this, I’ll definitely keep my eyes open and report anything unusual.

Ugh! Getting stalked has got to be so unnerving. Hope you get back to peace of mind soon Sophie.

I'm really sorry to hear that, if you ever need anything let me know. I've never moderated anything before but if you need my help I'm available.

I’m available if you need any more (I’ve been around for years and I already live in the comments 😂). So sorry people are the worst, and mod or not, I’ll keep an eye out for any weirdos as well. 👀

Online stalking is really crappy, one time this guy took a liking to me, we went out on a date and I didn't get good vibes from him so I said no to a second date, next thing I know he is sending messages to my friends, copying my blog posts (Livejournal) word for word, taking claim to some of my work posts, claiming to be me, integrating himself into my daily life in ways I didn't even realize (for example he and my best friend were talking on the phone daily) He finally got bored and moved on so hopefully this shithead will do the same. in the meantime I will keep a candle lit--try to have all women moderators since it's a guy doing this, not that he couldn't create a girl account but sounds like he has a pattern of behavior.

One of the very many reasons that we (human beings) can't have nice things - someone always finds a way to ruin it. A big "Le sigh" for you Sophie and for the rest of us good men and women as well. 🤷‍♀️

I got you sofie let me know 💜

As someone who enjoys all of your content and values the effort you put into maintaining it, especially with so much content, I’m really sorry that you’re going through this... it’s an absolute shame! Helping out in this situation and keeping an eye on inappropriate behavior is the least we can do to make sure it doesn’t happen again, and you can have some peace. Much love and encouragement, Sofie

sorry to hear that sofie. happy to help you out if needed. stay safe ♥️

There's always an idiot. But why would they flag you for their misbehaviour? That's insane. Some people are just insane. Just make sure you don't accidentally select that person's new account as a moderator.

Oh wow, that’s really messed up. I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this. I’m not totally sure how it works on Patreon, but I know some platforms can block users based on things like their IP address or payment details, which makes it harder for them to just pop back up with a fresh email. Wishing you strength in dealing with such an awful situation.

I’m so sorry you’re having to deal with this. I know how mentally and physically exhausting it is to deal with. I will keep an eye out for any suspicious accounts/comments.

Oh my gosh, Sofie. 😢💔 I am so sorry you’re going through this. You are truly an amazing person and you do not deserve this. I hope you’re able to get to the bottom of this soon! Sending love and positive energy!!

I'm sorry that this is happening to you 🙏🏾 . This is sad and scary patreon need some more guidelines. They need to be like twitch.

Scary. Some people are crazy. It sucks that patreon can't be more helpful....

Really sorry you're going through this Sofie, some people suck :( I'm a moderator on another patreon and willing to keep an eye out here too if you'd like.

So sorry you’re going through this. Why can’t people just be fkg normal?

As echoed by and through your entire community; so sorry this is happening and that you have to deal with this. Might be helpful if we know what kind of messages to look out for, (if you're at liberty to share of course) what I mean by that is; what language does this person message you in and what's their level of said language, (i.e. tendencies to make typos and/or grammatical errors or not?) is this stalker's messages more in the vein of ' I want to make you my bride' or 'I'm sure we'd be besties irl'? Do they add a fake picture or avatar every time they create a new account/subscription? Might sound like dumb questions but might help all of us keep an eye out. I went through something similar in real life and know how annoyingly scary it can be/feel. (especially since both Patreon and my local authorities seem to share in inefficiency regarding this subject matter)

I cannot fathom some people it makes me so angry when you work so hard to bring some joy and a fun escape for us for a few hours each week. Shame on them. Like others have said I will keep an eye out for anything sus in comments.

thts terrible I will keep a eye out for sure I normally look through comments anyways

I’m sorry your dealing with this I normally watch your charmed videos so if I see anything I’ll try to inform you

I'm sorry you're going through this! I'll keep an eye out !

I’m so sorry you’re dealing with this! Your safety, both physical and psychological, is important. While I haven’t seen anything weird in comments from posts before, I will keep an eye out and let you know if I see anything going forward. Hope you can find a permanent solution to this at some point so you don’t have to worry about them coming back.

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Especially after everything else you've gone through. I'm amazed at how gross and repulsive some people can act.

That's despicable. Like some people have nothing better to do. These people with their psychological obsessions! Hope everything works out for you.

That sounds awful, I’m sorry you’re dealing with this. I’ll definitely keep an eye out for any suspicious behavior. Please let us know if there’s anything else you need

I’m so sorry you’re having to go through this! I’d be up for trying to help out, though can’t promise I’d be much good. 💜

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