Frankie's Secret Therapy Session

Totally with Becca with the last written thing you will receive from someone. Its definitely an Italian thing, my family does the same thing. To drive the point home of holding on to stuff like this is when these people arent around you can physically hold something they touched, wrote, and basically a physical copy of their thoughts. Joes comment about not hearing her voice is a point but seeing something she addressed to you after shes gone will hit you differently. I feel like you need to live through some of these things to fully respect the mentality behind it.

This one makes me tear up every time. I love Frank’s sentimentality

Ugh this episode has me right in my feels 🥹 my 30th birthday was last month and my mom had a signed card for me and passed away a week later. I’ll cherish it forever.

I took a brick from my grandpas house before we sold it. He was the last grand parent we lost and it was where we held most of the family functions. I still have it, but I cried when a piece broke off 😅

This was beautiful these men are incredible

frankie sharing his emotions and crying through explaining has me crying 😭😭 what a man, i love how authentic he is

they have obviously not been seeing people waterboard themselves on tiktok💀

I absolutely love how emotionally intelligent Frankie is

i need to see y’all’s memory boxes

The soap opera Guiding Light STARTED ON THE RADIO! That's how old that shit was and my nan ate up every episode.

Frankie giving a visual of how he makes a sandwich, but all we see is joe listening

Ok so I have always said how I couldn’t wait to move because I hate my house. It’s small we don’t have space. But listening to Frankie talk about his home he brought his children into. I have a new found love for this home. I brought my babies home here. It also is my husbands childhood home we bought it from my husbands mother. It has heard two generations of our family. Thanks Frankie

Hot take; I think Frankie and Joey have undiagnosed OCD. Frankie hoarding and Joey cleaning, organization and ruminating. I have OCD and my family also suffers from different types of OCD so every time they mention these things I always regard the trauma that it must have taken to get to that point. (This is just an opinion, I am not a mental health professional, and this isn't a diagnosis).

Who is cutting onions right now?!😭

after 2 years of watching them and finally having patreon exclusives is a blessing 😭

Having a family member who has dementia is one of the worst things to watch. I think that’s why Frank was such an “asshole” (his words) to her, bc you don’t want to or literally can’t as a child (a teen is still a child) grasp the idea of not remembering. I also keep everything because I see the first account of how fragile human memory is. I remember when Frankie mentioned that he saw a video where a dementia patient heard a song from his young adult life and immediately remembered it. It’s ugly to imagine forgetting who your children are, so I, too, would save absolutely everything. Like that’s why i understand when moms keep like their babies teeth and hair 😭

Table salt? Baby in the uk we were using road salt and snow and seeing how long you could grip it in your hand 🤣

frankie and i are like this 🤞🏼 cuz i just finished filling an entire bag of all the bottle caps i’ve collected since 2020 just for the memories

I feel like if you’ve had loss …you tend to keep cards . When the person is gone that type of stuff is all you have left

JUSTICE FOR TOMATO SANDWICHES!

frankie you need to listen to woman (reading) by la dispute. honestly the whole album rooms of the house is a sentimentally nostalgic hug/stab in the stomach. you’ll sob.

Frankie you got me 🥺 it hits so differently when it’s your babies.

Frank...yes...... he summed it up perfectly. I value the same kinds of connections with memory.

Frankie I love you so much

So, Joe laughs at Frankie for taking stuff from his childhood home but fails to remember he bought his mom’s house when she was potentially going to lose it because of sentimental value. Woooooooooooow (I kid I kid I joke I joke)

Frank talking about his home and his things really hit me. Because I’m the same way and feel the same way. He started crying and so did I 😭🫶🏻😭

I have 2 tickets to San Fran show on July 12th I need to sell! Im still going but I got different seats with family and now I have 2 extra tickets. On the floor 4 rows from stage. Im not sure how to sell them ticketmaster wont let me. Lmk if you want to go!! I'll just price them according to what they go for im not trying to be rich

Joe should have locked in when frankie was getting emotional

I love y’all but your episodes might need to be structured more bc you have been repeating yourselves… and it’s crazy cause I don’t think you do it on purpose but it’s so spot on to what y’all have said before😂The whole 20 mins of sandwich talk has been said alreadyyyyyy

wow… frankie made me tear up there

Frankie is such a beautiful soul. Listening to him talk about his fears of dementia, and his emotional connection to his previous homes and the memories associated with them… Just a lovely moment to witness. ⭐️

So is ant part of the show now? I don’t get why he contributes so much

This is hands down no question my FAVORITE Patreon yet😭😭🥹🥹🩷🩷🩷

I lost my grandma when I was 8. I loved her but don’t really remember her. And I don’t really have anything from her. But one of the few things I have from her is her handwritten birthday cards. I’ll never throw those away

i’m sorry joe didn’t know about chorizo until he was 23???

Does anyone else make their peanut butter and jellies by putting peanut butter on both sides of the bread and then jelly on? That way it’s like an uncrustable and the jelly doesn’t soak into the bread. It is the BEST way to make it

ive lost a lot of pictures from my phone or cameras or whatever so I have theym saved and dated in my google drive, and I have a folder for different family members and pets. So like if I just wanted to find pics of my grandparents it's super easy to find, I dont have to worry about them getting deleted after a failed backup or whatever, and I can save voicemails in that folder so when they're gone I can still hear their voice sometimes. I save cards from immediate family (like my parents and siblings and my grandpa) bc I wanna be able to see their handwriting even after theyre gone. I lost a lot of relatives when I was very young tho so I think a lot of my sentimentality is bc of experiencing grief and loss at a young age and trying to comprehend that. I keep thoughtful gifts but if something isnt thoughtful or just isnt something I would wear/use/enjoy I dont wanna make myself feel guilty for not keeping it. Also depends on who got it for me tho

When Joey goes into the accent 🤣 should definitely be a clip lol

I lost my mum at 18, my younger sister was only 9. So I kept things I thought would show her personality when my sister was old enough to ask. I have her handbag untouched the way it was when she passed, her make up, her notebokes and recipe cards. We also kept outfits of my mums that were just ‘her’ …pjs she wore often, her date night dress and naturally her wedding dress. I think it’s important to keep some things

Did nobody catch Ant's sugar daddy joke? Lol "sucking the life out of them" - Joey "And then they give you money" -Ant

how do you not like BLTs Joe???

Thanks to keeping birthday cards i was able to get tattoos of both grandmas hand writtint

I completely understand where Frank is coming from with holding onto handwritten cards/letters & the fact that you won't receive that again one day. My dad has been sick for some time & his handwriting has changed so much - to the point it really isn't legible anymore. I have a birthday card from him where he wrote "I love you SO MUCH" and underlined 'so much' for extra emphasis and I hold that card close to my heart because it's one of the last well written cards I have from him.

i really appreciated seeing the vulnerability from frank in this episode. i truly see his reasoning for keeping those items and though i may not do the same (more with taking floors and walls i of course keep cards and things) i can definitely understand it.

Ant needs his own camera

pretty sure ant is referring to mortadella with the pistachios, which is basically italian bologna and it’s fireee

Frankie’s memory is so good because he is surrounded by things that give him memories

Seeing a completely different side of Frank thats serious and emotional makes me love him even more. I almost started tearing up with him.

The long shot of Joe looking at frank while he describes the meat placement sent me

The culmination of the conversation at the end, where Frankie cried, was really important to me. As someone who who was DEVASTATED to move from my childhood home when I was 14, I relate so heavily to Frankie's drive to want to save things that represent the space and time of his memories. While listening, I regretted not having kept some of the wallpaper or carpet from my childhood home. I have just a few boxes of important items from college and the first nine years of my teaching career, and I also still have a few boxes in my parent's basement. I get it, and I love how emotional Frankie became, because it validated for me just how real this all is for me, too.

Joe, I don't think you're in the minority. If I get a gift that I haven't used in years, it's going to goodwill or the trash. Unless it's something that's super meaningful. But a cup, meh, gone.

Joe just called Frank a hoarder!! Finally! It's out there, let the healing begin, lol.

They completely missed Ant saying “and then they hand you money” at 50:34

Has anyone else noticed the little glitches in their movements or should I go consult my physician? 👁️👄👁️

Three eps I’ve listened in a row (2 random and this one), and all three have had the same discussion about how to lay meat in sandwich

I’ve been writing letters to my grandma since I went off to college and I’ve got a ton of letters from her just stored in random boxes that have moved with me over the years lol

Dammit! I almost got thru without crying.

I also get sentimental things. Birthday cards for my family are all homemade. My mother aunt and I and my sister make beautiful intricate cards for each other all the time for holidays and such. I’ve kept all of them that didn’t fade or fall apart because they’re beautiful and they mark milestones. My son gets cards now. My husband is a dad and gets new cards. I’m a mom and get different cards. Anything someone makes for me I will keep unless it breaks or can’t be fixed. I have plenty of room to rotate through things or pull them out or put on display. Also the mugs, if you just rotate through them you’ll end up using all of them. I have a lot of mugs because they’re beautiful look cute or cool but I will get rid of simple ones or ones I really don’t use lol

Frankie placing his hands on the mat while he’s talking is vibrating my entire car

I can get the throwing out food containers but like, not if it’s overnight lol just clean it. If it’s in the fridge or I forgot it in my car or something and stuff could be growing, yeah just toss the whole thing brother it won’t FEEL clean after that lol.

Give it time is absolutely wild! 🤣🤣🤣

Aww Frankie🥹🫶🏽

Frank Alvarez is the one of the most humble and pure natured people I have ever seen, people like him are more and more rare by the day.

I’m actually cackling!!! My grandma currently has that exact poem called “footsteps” framed in her room😂

If you come to Australia and ask for a small coffee, they will almost certainly ask you “what kind” - especially in Melbourne 😂

never related to frank more 😔 my childhood home was sold in 2021 and it was the most heartbreaking thing I️ think I’ve ever been through. Immediately after it was sold my parents (who had been married 25 years) divorced and that was just the cherry on top of it all lol. I️ve driven past the house many times now since and I️ sob every time thinking a child is experiencing their childhood where I️ did 😞 also so jealous of Frank for taking something from his childhood home, so so so wish I️ did. Might go steal a rock.

Bologna is just a hit dog pancake

I always keep the most recent birthday card from my relatives. So when I got my birthday card in 2024 - I tossed the one from 2023.

“LTs” and that’s my initials “inmate 6804” and that’s my bday real 1, 2 punch to me this ep boys

Awwww Frankie😭💙 this was such a good episode

Frankie😭💜

Is the video glitchy or is it just me?

Walked into work tearing up as I finished this episode on my way there ... Coworker looks at me and very seriously asks, "Whose fault?" and I respond with, "Frankie Alvarez." He takes a beat and goes, "Tiyah Mawks guy?" Happy Saturday, guys

how amazing it must be to have Frank as your father figure. He is going to raise AMAZING humans

i need to sell two tickets for the basement yard show thursday july 10th as soon as possible, im not able to go anymore): they’re row s only selling for face value!! $152

I keep cards for the handwriting lol

My parents sound my childhood home when I was in my early 20s and I am still angry to this day at the people who bought it. I know it’s irrational anger but the thought of someone else having a childhood in it and living their day to day lives bothers me. So I 100% understand where Frankie is coming from.

I always put so much thought and effort into the cards I get/make for people :/ I hope my friends and family at least keep it for a little while omg

I love you guys so much

With all the underserved hate Frankie gets, I really hope he sees all these comments and knows how loved he is 🥰

I’ve never been nostalgic but my sister always has been and she keeps everything. And she opened up a letter recently that I wrote to her when I was like 5 after we got in a fight and it said “I really don’t like you right now but I have to love you because you’re my sister. Goodnight” 😂

The story frank tells of the dishwasher is from “bed bath and big titties” and it is still my favorite vlog

Can we talk about how they just grazed by the “tits out for Jesus” part 😂😂

Damn yall had circle pizza? We had rectangle pizza lol

I just love you guys 🩷

Bro how many times have they had this argument about sandwiches 🤣🤣🤣

I GASPED at Ant saying he throws cards immediately in the bin?! At least give it a brief shelf life bro (redeemed for writing letters though 🥹)

Wasn’t expecting to cry when I played this 😂. Loved this episode

Im with Frankie on this. When my grandma passed, I went through cards she gave me and got her handwriting engraved on a necklace.

MERCH IDEA!!! A Frankie cup (graphic tee type) & a Joey cup (minimal or "uniform")!!! TAKE MY MONEY:)

Most cards, I open right over the trash and then toss. Here and there it'll go on the fridge or my coffee table for a few days at best

BTW when you come to AZ in August, the air gets so hot that your phone DOES turn off even when it’s just sitting outside for 20 mins

Anyone getting a weird choppiness/desync for like a second every five minutes?

i love you guys so much!!

Ant…that’s just blasphemous. I was genuinely speechless hearing about his sandwich habits.

Yesssss with the Gullah Gullah island shout out omg my childhood

One time when I was cleaning my room I found a whisker from my cat that had died maybe 6 months prior & started sobbing, & I had to keep it. I’ve experienced multiple deaths this year, most of them were very unexpected, & most recently a few weeks ago one of my aunts. I’m about to move & I hope I find a card from her in my stuff. Even with just her name written on it, because at least it’s something. It’s like they live on thru these words that they wrote.

This was a very beautiful episode to experience.❤️

I love this episode ❤️ thank you guys ❤️

We need Ant on the next slam poetry pleeeeaaassee

Joey always wonders how Frankie remembers everything. it’s BECAUSE he keeps stuff. he gets to experience it over and over. of course he remembers more! Joe you need to keep more stuff so you can remember 🥺🥹

If ya'll are going to keep asking ant questions we are going to need an ant-cam. C'mon

Sobbed to this Frank has such a way with words

Man I love Frankie. I’ll never understand the hate he gets. His heart is so pure. I loved this episode ♥️

Frankie got me crying over here 🥹🫶🏽

This is the most human and heart warming thing i have easily ever listened to

Was this episode glitching for anyone else?😅

Joe is so judgey lmao

omg why did nobody catch ants sugar daddy joke 😭

I'm very much Frankie about holding on to stuff. When I moved out of my childhood home, I was 9 and remember going out in the yard and putting dirt and grass in a cup to plant at my new house. Guess what my mom did when she found a cup of dirt and grass??😂😭😭 I also took a whole ass wooden slab out of the bench I used to meet friends at in college to smoke. We all signed it. I got rid of it this year (13 years after graduation lol) I'm just starting to write these things down more so I don't have debris collecting in my home 🥲

OOOOOF pollywog is very much a hard NOPE, guys 🫠 I know that’s definitely not what you meant 🤣

They need to show us a pic of their respective cup cabinets

I was writing my daily to do list listening to this and subconsciously starting writing sandwich ingredients because I was so focused on them 😭😂

I’m more on the sentimental side as well like Frankie so I get it. I have kept most every card I’ve ever gotten in my life and I’m so glad I did because now I still have cards from multiple grandparents, my brother, and 2 of my childhood bestfriends who have since passed away. ❤️

this was such a raw episode and I love that we got emotion from frank, a new side to him. im so proud of him for not being embarrassed about crying for millions of people to see. he helps men and young boys know that its okay to be sensitive and cry. thank you Frankie.

I miss my abuelos so much and wish I had something physical from them ♥️

Frank this is so real. My friends in high school used to make fun of me for recording a little snippet of every hang out but I’m so scared of forgetting memories that mean so much to me. I want to remember everything and everyone in such detail. I want to have the sounds of our laughter and our young faces in my head forever.

matching cutlery in my head is elite behavior

“This is going to sound so like, fuckin’ like, you know like, weird like, hippy dippy of me, but like, there’s like, there’s more energy and story to it.” -Frank Alvarez. 1:09:44 We have reached peak therapy session guys.

Frankie is such an incredible and precious human 😭

I appreciated this episode! It’s always nice to see people comfortable in their vulnerabilities. Also, I have that same desire but with pictures. I cannot delete pictures and I have so many photo albums filled to the brim. That’s priceless to me.

i loved this episode

Frankie 😭 I know you hate country music but listen to House That Built Me by Miranda Lambert

I LOVE writing letters. & my therapist gave me the best prompt- write letters to your parents/grandparents and ask what their dream was before they became parents/spouses. What was their life like before those responsibilities came into play? Who did they want to be? It will be nice to have when they pass away, especially if it’s hand written. You could pass it on for generations!

WHY AM I CRYING?? not just yapping today boys!

So, we need an episode (probably fits for santagato studios) of Joey trying all of Franks foods that Joey roasted him for. We need Joe to try that tomato mayo sandwich, the banana, rice, and mayo. And the thinly sliced prosciutto, mozzarella, oregano, oil and vinegar sandwich.

And I’m crying 😭

all jokes aside- what a beautiful episode

As someone whose currently in the process of selling my first home I feel this so deeply. DAMN IT FRANKIE! Was not expecting to ever from a basement yard episode 😂

mugs are SO easy to accumulate!! Some I will buy for myself because they’re cool in some way, and then bam here comes a holiday or birthday where I’m receiving a gift and of course one or two have to be a mug!! And sometimes I will regift later on to someone else but I think the mugs just add up faster than I can rid myself of them lol

I’m nursing my newborn (my first baby) crying with Frankie 🥹😭

Aww always nice to see yall get into serious conversations once in a while :,) Frankie is so wholesome. I feel like I am somewhere between, where it really just depends on the item. I don’t think I attach as frequently as Frankie does but when I do find a special item I am REALLY attached and also have a good handle as to where said item is at all times. I don’t have a kiddo yet but I know that feeling will for sure multiply if that time comes. Good talk!!

Frankie made me cry. I love this podcast. lol, this was a great episode ♥️

Just me and Frankie over here crying this morning! 🥹

Frank that was so beautifully said. I cried with you. 💛

Frank, you need to watch the movie Home with Tom Hanks!

Frank telling Joe he took the floor and wall from his childhood home has me actually crying!

I relate to Frank so much. I also have a crazy autobiographical memory, and I feel the same way about objects and places and energy! Moments passed live on in the things around us, just like they live on through us.

So hey frankie, don’t ever do this to us again.

Joe looks so proud of Frank for being able to vulnerable and express himself honestly about this sensitive topic. We’re proud of you too Frank. You’ve grown a lot.

I’m sorry but the desk banging is killing me. Pleaseee look into other mic arm options

I replayed the part of Joey smashing the imaginary PB&J so many times! I was dying laughing in my office at work 😂😂

These longer episodes get me hard. Keep em cummin boys!

If my parents ever sell my childhood home I will literally lose it

27:02-27:20 felt a little strange ? I feel like we haven’t been getting as many camera back and forths lately and this time stamp really made it noticeable! I still love the boys and I’m not mad, just something I’ve noticed?!?

Damn Frankie got me 🥹

AWWWW FRANKIIEEEE

Can we get a basement yard PO Box? 🥹

Well the basement yard has made me cry now GGs

local food spots are really big here in Alaska, we have AMAZING local coffee shops and huts everywhere that are super popular

Frankie I am crying!!!! 😭

This felt like an old episode ♥️ love seeing Joe happier again ♥️

Eating a bologna sandwich as they started talking about it lol

Probably one of my favorite episodes to date. So good!

Well I didn’t have crying because of watching the basement yard on my 2025 bingo card 🥺

Also- thanks to you both for the honest conversations.. they’re so genuine and resonate so much.. a true testament of a 30 year friendship. 🤍

frank i have to go to work after this, i can't be crying😭

My grandmother told us that when she dies all we are getting from her are her mugs (she definitely had over 150 mugs)

From deli meats, to therapy and crying in the club, back to hehes and hahas.... thanks for another great episode!

This was so unexpectedly wholesome. Thank you for that! Also, Frankie man…you made me cry at work. You’re such a good dad.

Writing letters to your grandma, is the kindest thing. My grandma is 82 and I text her every single day. Love my Grammy! ❤️

Frank choking up got me… dammit

I keep every card I get and reread them probably every year or so 😭

Fuck Frankie, no reason I should have gotten so emotional during that, I swear I was hearing the ASPCA music while he was talking 😂

A little therapy session on a Friday - crying along with Frank! I get where Frank's coming from. My dad's family home was a 2 family home in Brooklyn with his mother/father and his 3 aunts and grandmother. Little by little, everyone passed and then we had 50+ years of memories and life to clean up. You get attached in the worst ways and physical items are ways to remember both the people and the stories behind the items. And unfortunately, dementia is a reality that some of us have to deal with in families and it is a way to hold onto memories. Thanks guys, a great episode <3

did not expect to be crying this early in the morning especially to the funniest podcast i listen to (not complaining tho i love hearing about frankie's love for his family!)

The footprints in the sand poster was hanging in my Italian grandparents bathroom my entire childhood 😂 wack as hell

really wasn’t planning on frankie making me SOB on this friday morning

Not me crying along with Frank

frank is such a pure soul and his kids are so fortunate to have him as a father figure

Seeing you tonight, CANT WAIT

Come to Oregon

Hearing and seeing Frankie tear up made me tear up too 😭 I get it though, I'm a sentimental bitch too.

big nostalgia frank

FUCK YOU I LOVE THE MINECRAFT MOVIE

frank and his family drinking from the lead covered glass cups

Bologna is just a hotdog pancake!

Crying at 7am. Thanks guys

The Base Meat yard

One thing. Don't throw dishes out. Take them to a charity.

Screaming Binya-Binya. What a SHOOOWWWW 🔥🔥

“jose santiago esta aqui” made me cry laughing on my way to work 😭

I just recently rewatched the Sopranos and I was fully a mob member for several weeks. It was my whole personality.

Binya Binya

I love that the sandwhich convo has been had before and neither of them remember it

Hahaha I promise only come up online to watch these folks once a day, got to save this for later. See you folks in days😂

See you boys tonight!!

the minecraft movie was the worst movie i’ve ever seen and i will stick to that till the day i die it sucks balls

1.5 hrs? On a FRIDAY??? SAY LESS

Come to buffalo!

An hour and thirty minutes??? A gift

Come to Australia I beg

Good night boys