Updated - The most difficult day of my life.
**UPDATE**
Husband is home as of last night and is doing well! He seems to be have been more himself today and is doing much better than he was. He's still pretty tired, but overall, it's such an improvement.
Thank you all, from the bottom of our hearts, for the all of the support and kind words and donations. Really, it means so much to us, and it make him so happy to see. Thank you all.
I'll be sure to keep an eye on him, and we'll both be sure to get plenty of extra rest.
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Yesterday was the most difficult day of my life. Nothing quite hits you so hard as multiple doctors telling you "He could have died," or "He could die."
==TLDR at the bottom==
The day I posted my last update, I was starting to feel sick. The following day, I was down. Covid. First time I've had it, and it sucked (Still have it, just isn't too intense). Husband took care of me as best as he could, but he's been a bit sick lately too. A day later, he was down pretty bad too. Covid.
As some of you might be aware from past posts, he has autoimmune issues thanks to vasculitis and kidney issues with glomerulonephritis. Covid was gonna be rough for him. I was feeling a lot better myself. Minor congestion, some headaches from sneezing. Nothing some ibuprofen couldn't help. Him, however... He wasn't sleeping, couldn't eat and was breathing really weirdly.
Yesterday was his birthday, and despite all the plans we had made, well, we couldn't do anything. It was just meant to be a day of him trying to rest, but something wasn't right.
I couldn't get in touch with our family doctor and decided to take him to urgent care to see if they could prescribe anything for him. He said congestion was the only issue, so I figured some strong medication for that would help.
He barely made it to the car, and he barely made it inside the clinic. They started doing the normal checks, and the nurse was concerned because his oxygen level was only at 73% (97% is normal). Another doctor came in and told me they were calling an ambulance right away, and they hooked him up to oxygen. I commented about how stupid expensive ambulances were and that I'd just drive him, and the doctor straight up said "He could die if he's not on oxygen."
I never felt so choked up and unable to talk in all my life. I just sat there while she explained it to me. EMS arrives, loads him up and takes him away. I lost it in the car for a moment and headed home. Since it was covid related, we agreed to see what the protocol for visitors was before I went up there.
I fell asleep on the couch, then he called me. Some scans showed he had a blood clot in his lungs. He said he'd call back in a moment, cause someone else came in to talk to him. When he called back, it turns out it was multiple blood clots, and they were going to perform surgery.
I gathered my stuff and left. I got to his room as they were prepping him to take him back. The doctor doing the procedure was explaining how things works. They'd make an incision around his groin and run the tool up towards his lungs and heart to suck out the clots.
He went on to tell me... He could die from this procedure, as it could stop his heart (his heart was already under a ton of strain). I could hardly choke out answers after that. He told me Paul was lucky to have even gotten to the hospital, that people with clots like this die at home or die on the way without knowing what happened. I was mortified. Took everything I had to not start bawling right there. I gave Paul kiss, told him I loved him and went to wait in the car (he was to be put in an ICU room after, so I would be waiting for that call).
I don't think my mom has ever heard me cry like I did when I called her. I barely made it to the car before the waterworks started. Me being sick too, crying just sounded stupid, haha. I calmed down though, got me a drink and a snack, called a friend and waited.
About an hour passed, and I got a call saying the ICU room was ready and that the procedure was half over and going well, so I went up to the room, and about 30 minutes later, I got another call saying the procedure was done. They removed the major clotting (which I was shown pictures of later, and it was so grody...), and the smaller clots, they are gonna let dissolve while he's in the ICU while monitoring him.
As it stands, he'll be in the ICU for a few days for monitoring, but things are better now it seems. Just wish he could get some sleep. After I got home, I crashed for a good 11 hours. I'm not feeling too hot myself atm, but I figure it's cause of all of the stress from yesterday. I'm just beat.
With all of this going on, I don't think I'm going to be able to start working on a new update till the middle of next month, at least, so the next update would be on Feb. 1st instead of January 16th. I don't know what all to expect right now, so I figured I'd give you all the heads up for that.
What makes this even worse is that his Insurance doesn't go into effect until the 1st of January (American Healthcare!), meaning it'll still all e out of pocket.
Any sales or Merch/Projects or Donations to his Ko-fi will help tremendously.
His Kp-fi - https://ko-fi.com/wolfstar
Merch and More - https://linktr.ee/dynewulf
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TLDR VERSION
Husband could have died because of covid and ended up in the ER on his birthday yesterday so they could remove blood clots in his lungs. Delaying next update too, cause I'm a bit of a mess.
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Thanks to everyone that's already sent us well wishes and what not. I appreciate it. Sorry if I don't reply to everyone also. I'm just drained. It's been a trying 24 hours.
I'll be sure to do what I can to take care of him, and I'll be sure to take care of myself as best as I can <3
Comments (67)
Good luck for you and your husband!
OMG I am wishing you and your husband well. The clot situation is very scary. Do take all the time to rest and recenter before moving forward with the project. Self-care and self-health is very important. Much love and prayers!
Very sorry to hear that Dyne. The uncertainties, and loss of hope for a full recovery always seem to gnaw into your heart, mind and soul without letup. I dearly wish you two all the best.
So glad he's improving. Take your time, the VN isn't important right now.
Dang, I'm sorry you two have struggled so much lately. It's a good thing you acted quickly. You guys take all the time you need to rest. Being sick for either of you like this is nothing to take lightly.
I'm glad things are getting better, and I hope you can organize another birthday celebration without problems
Agreed. It'll still mean a lot.
So glad to see things are doing much better. For sure though you two are very deserving of a rest.
So glad to hear that both of you are on the mend! ❤️ Make sure to take it easy & get plenty of rest! Sending all the positive healing vibes!
Thank the heavens. I'm glad he pulled through.
I'm glad to hear he's improving! Wishing you both a Happy New Year. *hugs and love*
It's a shame you guys had a rough time around Christmas, hopefully you can enjoy New Year's in peace
Dyne, speaking as someone who's had a clot recently, your husband is very lucky to be alive. They are truly the most terrifying things. I completely understand how both of you are feeling. As a sidenote... If he requires blood thinner medication (Eliquis is commonly prescribed). Look into the 10 dollar copay card once his insurance goes into effect. You can find it by googling the manufacture's website. The OOP cost is way too high for one person to pay. Warm regards - please don't worry about this game. The man you love comes first, always.
I don't give a fuck about the damn game, Dyne. Be there with the man you love, anything else is of no importance until he is better
I hope everything goes well and both of your recoveries are quick.
Oh my god! I'm so sorry all of this has happened to you guys. I'm wishing you both a fast recovery. Thank you for all the hard work you've done, and I hope nothing but the best for you and your husband. ❤️
I hope you both are alright!! Take all the time you need!
Good luck, to the both of you, don't care for updates or anything until things calm. Even better if you're smiling again first
Many prayers for his recovery.
Sorry that the both of you had to go through that but bright side it was caught in time, so you still have each other. As stated before do not worry about the updates and focus on both of your health first and foremost.
Dyne I’m so sorry for all you’ve been through, hope your husband gets well soon. Take all the time you need, your story sounds like a nightmare, so please rest. Happy Holidays by the way.
I'm sorry this happened to your husband and you, I'm glad that he is ok now and I hope he continues to improve, hopefully the new year will be better for both of you *hugs you both.*
I think I can safely say that I speak for everyone when I say this. We don't care how long you need to take, take as much time as you need. A lot of us have been here for years funding your project and we all understand that sometimes things in life take priority. There's nothing wrong with that. We are all here for you and we always will be. As for the insurance thing when it gets going see if you can do a back coverage. I know that's a thing that medicaid/medicare are often willing to do. Please take all the time you need, don't feel any pressure to try and push out updates.
I'm glad your husband is okay and resting. I can’t imagine how it must feel to be in that situation. I happy everything is okay at the end, and take all the time you want to rest. With everything that happened, all I care about is that you two are well and healthy. Hope you guys have a merry Christmas and a happy new year. ❤️
I'm so sorry you both had to go through something like that, but I'm glad to hear that he's recovering. This is no easy to go through and you need rest,so please, take all the time you need and take care of eachother
Glad to hear he's recovering. I wish I could support you a bit more, I've heard that indeed insurance in the united states can be absurd, so I hope you manage to find all the finantial help help you can. I'll continue to support you here on patreon as long as I can. Now rest my guy, it must have been an exhausting experience
I am so sorry to hear all that, man. I wish your husband a speedy recovery. Take all the time you need, there are things more important than a VN update.
Wishing yall the best
Take your time, it is more important to be there for your Husband than the update. I wish you both a fast recovery and it will be all ok soon 🤗
Hi Dyne, sorry I haven’t had a chance to respond to this yet, I was driving for a few hours and I saw this post while at a rest stop. I’m so sorry that you guys have been fighting through this traumatic situation, especially on his birthday/near Christmas of all times. I’m so relieved to hear he made it through the surgery though, that’s great news 🫂 Please take as much time as you both need to rest and recover from this. You guys deserve all the peace in the world. I hope that everything is gonna be uphill from here. Sending you guys all my support and hugs 🫂🫂🫂
Please send my best wishes to your husband. You both are such incredible individuals that make the world a better place. I wish you both a speedy recovery, and happier and healthier days in the near future.
Dyne, take a break and be sure to give yourself time to recover from this. It's alot to take in right away, and i doubt anyone would be able to focus. I'm sure everyone wants you and Wolfstar to focus on healing after all of this. It may take a bit, but I'll see about donating more once the holidays are over.
Omfg glad he's ok! Take all the time you need for his physical health and both of your mental health!
Omg Dyne I’m so glad he’s recovering. When my husband was being admitted from the ER when we were in because edge had some leg numbness, that was scary enough. I can’t imagine the scare you had. Take the time you need and feel free to skip to the end of February even.
To Wolfbite, I'm so sorry to hear about your husband, but elated to hear the procedure went well and that he's doing alright. Take all the time you need to help recover from the stress and be there for your husband. Family always comes first before work. Tell your husband we wish him a happy birthday, merry Christmas, and that we hope he gets better. Here's to a wonderful new year for the both of you -Eclipse
Please take all the time you need to be there for him, Dyne. Don't worry about anything else. His recovery and your health as well are the most important things right now. Really wish you wouldn't have to endure something so terrible. Especially at Christmas and his birthday. So I hope Paul will get get back to better health very soon, so you both can be together at home again. My prayers are with you both and I hope to help you guys with some donation as good as possible. Lots of get well soon wishes from me to Paul and hope you will hear only better news from now on. <3
please take care of yourselves first and foremost. take a well earned rest, and treasure each other.
Holy shit, I'm so relieved that didn't go the way I thought it was gonna go by the title and first few sentences I read, very very happy your mans pulled through. The updates can most certainly wait, get yourself some rest and be there for ya hubby man, you two really deserve (NEED) that with what life has been throwing at the both of you.... AND BEFORE CHRISTMAS ON TOP OF THAT! Sending positive vibes your way and definitely gonna look into the merch or Ko-Fi donation to help you out. Again, praying that things get better for the both of you.
Hope everything goes well with your husband, don't worry Dyne please take care of him and yourself please
Take care of yourself and your husband, that's most important. Sending well wishes. I hope he recovers quickly.
I'm wishing you and your husband all the best right now! Get well soon!
Updates are the very last thing that should be on your mind now. Don't worry about that. Take care of yourself and your partner first. I'll add you guys to my prayers and send all the positive energy I can your way.
I'm sorry you both have to experience this during the holidays. Please take care of yourself & the hubby first and foremost. Your health is very important! We'll be waiting patiently for the update but again please make recovery priority number 1. Sending positive healing vibes your way for the both of you! We appreciate all you Dyne so please focus on the hubby's health (and yours) & recovery! Wishing you both ALL the BEST! ❤️
Don't worry. I am sure that these hard times will pass. You have been through a lot together. You will get through this, too. Your love for him has already saved him. Now, all he needs is some time to recover. Everything will be fine. Hugs
Take your time, man, dont rush things and im sure everything will be fine, time fixes most problems
Updates can wait, what you need is to be there for Corny! And we're all are hoping and praying he recovers! 🙏❤️
Don't even think about updates. Just take of yourself and your man!
I cannot feel what is to be in a situation like that, but I hope everything goes well, and you and your husband can get a well recovery for everything that's happening right now, I give you my condolences!
Take all the time you need and take care of your hubby ❤️
Hope for a safe, speedy recovery!! Nothing more scary in life than almost losing someone that special to you. We will be patiently waiting until you feel ready to come back.
Hearing you both got Covid and that he ended up hospitalized is awful. I will keep you both in my thoughts. The update is nowhere near as important as taking care of yourself and your husband. Focus on the two of you right now. The update can wait. *hugs and love*
Sending any positive energy and whatever I can to you guys, hope that the worse is over for you all and hope the new year will be kind to you
Sadness, do as you must and I will offer what I can 🙂
My thoughts go out to you and your husband. Hope you both pull through these trying times, and I wish you both nothing but the best. ❤️
Sent some money his way. Take it easy and let's hope for a speedy recovery for both him and you. ❤️ Pause the VN if you have to. He and you are much more important.
Omgs Dyne. Please do not worry about anything. The updates can wait for as long as possible. Please take care yourself. We all here wishing Star a quick and full recovery. And as for the updates, please take as long as you need. They can wait. And if you need any more help, please let it be known. Rest now please and get well soon, too.
Take your time to recover from it. Emotionally that must have put a ton of strain on you. Consider going to another country with healthcare insurance that can help your husband be better. Hugs and kisses!
Holy fuck! What is it about this time of year that just invites such chaos?! I'm so sorry to hear you've been under such stress & fear! You've both been through hell, but I'm glad you seem to be through the worst of it. Sending all the healing mojo, good energy, & positive vibes for y'all - plus a lil donation for the hubby. Hope y'all bounce back quickly from all of this fuckery 🦝❤️🔥✨️
I'm glad you both are stable, definitely take all the time you need, I'd much rather y'all be safe and happy then have an update. I wish you both swift recovery and a belated happy birthday too!
Dang! I’m super sorry to hear all of this! My condolences! Glad his surgery was good! Hoping for a speedy recovery!
Holy sh*t, that must have been a lot to take! I really hope things turn out for the best for your husband. I'm sorry you have to go through something like this. Take all the time you need, I wish you the best. Merry christmas to the both of you, and don't give up!
Hopefully things get better🙏 Take as much time as you need as well we understand.
Updating the VN is nowhere near as important as prioritizing his health and recovery. This is a major life event and as you explained could have ended badly. While we love your VN, we treasure you as more than a creator who just works on a VN, your community really cares about you, and we understand when big life things happen, you need to prioritize other things, especially when they include your husband's health!! Set the VN on the backburner for now and focus on your mental state and his recovery. We will be gladly supporting you along the way and will welcome you back when he is in better health. 💜🐼
Wishing you and your husband all the best Dyne. *Biggest of hugs.* Please take care of yourselves ❤️
I hope your husband gets better soon, COVID sucks especially for thoses of us more sensible than others But I'm confident he will pull through it Take care of yourself too and happy birthday to him
Please be sure to send him my prayers and I hope he recovers well. And don't worry about the updates. You've been through too much and deserve to be with your hubby and your family. Be safe and may your love burn bright even after the last galaxy burns out. ❤️❤️❤️❤️
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