Pregnant on a Boat. Sometimes it Sucks. [Ep. 159]

Obviously it is now 2 years fast forward now lol... I am happy you kept pushing forward. I recall being early pregnant with my son prior to leaving the island and I was also nauseous but only lasted a few weeks. I wish I had stayed on the boat but career called me back stateside. My best sleeps, even now, are when I was on the boat. Now, I use Alexa to play water sounds and it helps a bit but the gentle rocking is irreplaceable.

Just get an Au Pair to help out with the baby! Having a baby is of course wonderful and all that but it can also be pretty intense during long periods. To get away and get some breathing room is very important. I think you should consider having someone else on the boat to help you out when the baby comes or even a little while before its time.

Please don't just stop! You have to let us believe that the dream can continue after children! I remember a boyfriend I was sailing with for a time suggesting we buy a boat and have babies on it and I just bottled it! But i like to think it could have been.

Babies are so adaptable, go with the flow and your kid will be as cruisy as you are. We've lived all over the world with our daughters, sometimes against the advise of our friends (who are no longer our friends)so do what you want and the love you have for each other will carry the 3 of you through anything. Don't conform!! there is nothing worse than wishing your life was different xxx love you guys

my two bits would be to say to both of you don't give up your dream you have made it this fare and the baby will be a challenge but well worth every minute and make your new adventures that much better p.s. hope to see you guys some time out there

Yep, I hit it again. Stupid return button. You guys will love love love this adventure with your baby and child. It's not harder, it's FUNNER. lol. Good Luck

Ok, so I'm new. I hit return hoping for a new line. It turns out I get a whole new message ;). Back to the Pregnant Whoozies. I'm a mama of two and I can tell you it will run its course. You will make it and then eagerly enter to the next pregnancy. I know that sounds crazy, but it's true. It's what we mamas do :). Riley asked a question about advice during this time. That's not what prompted me to message, it was the comment about when there is a child it is harder. I have been one of those non contributing you tubers (you've officially changed that;)) for quite some time now, I have watched hours of your vlogs and have never remarked or supported. That just changed, and I thank You. Back to the "when there is a baby it is harder". From what I have seen in your vlogs, " YOU GUYS GOT THIS". Adding a baby isn't necessarily harder, it 's waaaaay more fun and I believe that you will embrace the adventure of it with a fun easy going attitude rather that a work attitude. I say this with experience. Instead of staying at home in a germ free bubble I packed mine up, threw them in a backpack and trained across Europe ( you should see the people at the Hostiles when you check in with a baby) ;). I stick them in the front type baby carriers and visit tons of the National parks in the US.

Ahhh yes the pregnant woozies!!!

Hey folks, not sure if this only feels like it in the videos, but you seem to be moving from places to places very fast. Faster than other full time sailors that stay at placss for weeks or months. Just thinking that you could take it slower and reduce the weather, sailing and planning preassure?

Loved to hear from your new friends who’ve recently started to sail! Thanks for that! Loved the video!

Hey you guys, my wife is a OBGYN, so Ive gleaned quite a lot of knowledge from her over the years. I know my wife would say, Elayna, your very young and healthy so you should continue with the activities you normally do, just be conscious your holding your breath for two :) Try to avoid really bumpy rides like on the tender. Generally go with your intuition (gut feeling). Don't be paranoid, but conscious - just like sailing. Be vigilant, have fun, but safety 1st. Don't feel bad about not working right now. When your little boy arrives, you may end up doing more of the baby work. Who knows. All the work ebbs and flows and works out. There is a reason God made two parents. You really need two people to do the job. Its the hardest, most rewarding job you'll ever do. You both are very hard working people. So stoked for you both. In terms of decision making about the future, its always best to take one day at a time. Take from this what works best for you and discard what doesn't. God bless you two + 1 ;)

Having you guys close to the USA is great, but being close to friends and family once your son is born might be what your body, mind and soul need. My husband and I have three kids (13,12,9 yrs). Sleep deprivation is real for those first couple months. Your body starts to handle it, but man you’re tired all the time. Then adding sailing in with that could be tough. Heading back to Australia for the first year and do small sails around home might be a better option. I would suggest Elyana flying home with the baby and Riley getting some friends to sail back with. And who knows maybe once you are back in Australia you could start a school for sailing or something like that. Also biggest thing to note here is, despite mine and everyone else’s suggestions, go with your gut. Even if it ends up being the wrong choice at the time, you can always change it and make a new path. Your body knows the answer you can handle, listen to it.

Love you guys!! Personally, even though I love having you on our side of the world, I think the support of friends and family now and while the baby is young would be great. Maybe you guys can get the boat back to Australia(Riley with a crew, Elayna flies) and then maybe have a marina to be based from that is close enough to friends, family. The slowing down for 6 mos. to a year seems like good advice too. Maybe some short sails around your home area for a while. If you keep sailing, bring some help on board so you won't be overworked and over tired. All the best, from a 46 year old trapped in a cubicle just trying to find a way out, and still pay for all that the 3 kids need/want.

You asked … Sleep: you know how you can be in a deep sleep and when a fishing reel clicks or whines you are instantly awake and know what’s happening? After your son is born you will wake up like that to anything and everything. You can use this new skill for the rest of your life. Unfortunately you will also have to learn how to function the rest of the day after not having slept well. Single handed sailing: I’m glad you like it and are competent because that is what it will be for the first three years. Docking or picking up a mooring you will be able to make an arrangement for your son but other than that you are on your own. Two hands and one mind will always be on the baby, even in a boat emergency. He not it: It will someday be watching these videos; even reading these comments. Sailing and Baby raising are similar; avoid any schedule of any kind. Flexibility is key. One of the greatest things about family cruising is that no matter where you are or what the conditions, you are all together and ‘here’. I think you should stay onboard from day one. Breast feeding is the key to many things: the baby’s health, Elayna’s health, independence from groceries, supplies, and refrigeration. Immediate ‘onboard’ consoling. If you can establish breast feeding (which isn’t always easy) you will be able to leave the boat with a disposable diaper and a baby wipe in your pocket and you are good to go. If you need more than that on an outing you will be headed home, believe me. Baby carriers: Start with the over shoulder pouch style and graduate to a chest or hip carrier at around 9 months. Two hands free, held in your personal space discourages people touching, you can see him, he can see you, nothing with wheels on docks and bad roads, you don’t leave the boat until he is bundled and secure, and you will always have a hand available for your safety as you move about the boat. When the two of you met it was a merging of lives. It might have seemed like a cross roads at the time but if you look back on it you can see that it just played out. I think it will be the same when you son joins you. This isn’t a ‘T’, it’s a merge. Follow your heart and do what you love and you will be happy. If I were your son and years from now saw what you were doing before me and that you quit it all to have me, I’d be pissed.

Great video, Elena Sorry to hear the Sea Sickness coming....Please stay Hydrated !!! most likely the issue at this time when your Body is adjusting to the new Baby. Riley as to your question: I really think Safety of Mom & Son is the number one to concern. I know cruisers sailing with children however not infants and thats the really big question. You as you well Know....things change very quickly where all hands on deck are required. I understand you won't be venturing around Cape Horn anytime soon...... I do think We will Follow along in your travels as long as you allow us too. As Matt Knepper say above a RV would be great way of exploring....Also remember We are Located in the Florida Keys and have plenty of Dock space to hang out. and only 50 miles to mainland......All the Best Guys !!!

Haul out and RV for a while. The Wynn's left a pretty good script for that, I reckon. Like the rest of the Patreon family, my family will gladly follow yours through your adventures wherever they may lead. Just so grateful to you for sharing! In any event, sooner or later some time on the hard might lead to clarity, and right back to La Vaga with a fresh vision; not unlike your time Aus after Grenada.

My point was don't let your pregnant self do the long range planning.

Your pregnant life is not the same as your normal life. Your thinking is different as is your emotional and physical state. My sister-in-law who is normally a very nice person was a monster when she was pregnant. If we thought she would be pregnant forever, we would have had to draw lots to see who would throw her overboard.

Yesterday, I met a guy named William. He spent much of his teens years living on a boat with his family of 5. He has his masters in Literature, just spent the summer is Alaska leading kayak tours, and his heading off to Spain to teach at an English immersion high school. I'm just telling you all this to say that, sure, it's different, it's difficult, living on a boat. But the experiences that your child will have will shape them into being someone that others look to for inspiration. And also praying the sleeplessness and nausea go away!

So Riley, I've decided that I can help you get through this very trying time for you and Elayna. I know you are tired, and Elayna needs to be pampered. What I have come up with is , I can come aboard and help you make the rest of your journey. This will allow you to get the rest while I take watch. Let me know how I can help.

Not surprising you're thinking about how it will all play out. My mother was a nurse who spent time as a midwife, and I asked her about your situation. She said that you will find it very difficult actually to sail with a new born since they require pretty much constant attention and it would be hard to leave the child even for minutes. So I think the biggest issue is to work out what kind of sailing you plan to do in the year or two after birth. Overnight sailing may be hard. But get advice about this from people who actually have done it, not just from people with opinions. And speak to a practicing midwife or three and ask them about what phases the child will go through and how feasible sailing with them will be. Either way, I suspect you can still sail, but maybe not across oceans. Maybe base yourself in various places for longer periods of time, host patrons and teach them how to sail..?! You'll work it out. 👍

Elayna is truly inspiring. Enduring all that she has and now, love in the oven, comes with his/her own side effects. Slowing down is natural. You already know that. I'm sure you've both been deep into discussion as to where to birth the precious bundle. Where ever that is, get there, hunker down. Tie up La Vagabond. Nurture Elayna and the baby. Get Riles ready to be a Dad. No man is ever ready, really, until he's holding precious in his arms. Then he's like "feck yeah, are you kidding me??" Tie up La Vaga. Get yourselves mentally and physically prepared for big changes. Bring the family back to the boat after all is well. I'd guess six months of age but you will know best. Of course, keep the cameras rolling. So many people love you and follow your ups and downs whether that be at sea or on land. Peace.

<a href="http://www.weliveonaboat.com/category/baby-on-board" rel="nofollow noopener" target="_blank">http://www.weliveonaboat.com/category/baby-on-board</a> You may have already have come across this article by Strathy I had a quick research for the implications for learning to walk on a boat with regard to sea legs but couldn’t find much. Maybe there’s a doctor out there with some maritime experience who might know? I wonder if learning to walk on a boat would be any different to learning on land?

By no means stop. But you always have to do what is best for you and your family. Nobody would fault you for slowing down a little if need be. If friends and family is what your hearts desire maybe it’s a time to return back too roots for a small amount of time.

Advice for parenting from a 3 time parent: Kids are actually really easy. Don't let any of the rumors cause you distress. When they are infants, they just sit and you feed them, and burp them. One technique for getting that gas out . . . pump the legs. Make a game out of it, they will LAUGH. Massage their tummies. Gripe water is your friend. Get some. Breastfeeding may or may not work. If it does, AWESOME! If not . . .well I'll buy you a can of formula. Nipple guards for Elanya might be a good idea if they are a bitter. Take shifts with the little one. Just like being on duty for the boat. In fact it can coincide really I'd imagine. Get a harness and vest and 100% mandatory have it on them when on deck (duh). They will love the air and I am guessing they will sleep a TON. Dropping a plug on the floor does NOT require it to be boiled. :) First baby, boiled. Second washed. Third wiped off on a shirt. Kids are a blast and they become more and more fun as time goes along. Just . . . keep going with your normal life and take them along for the ride. There is no reason to do anything else unless you really discover that you need to. One kiddo in tow isn't really that difficult or inconvenient. As an added bonus, if you DO go on with your regular life, and the kid learns from the start that mommy and daddy do their own thing, they will start to do THEIR own thing, and become independent at a remarkably young age. And they will appreciate you for it. And lastly . . . a word about marriage and kids. Marriage partner comes first. Always. Some people's tendency is to say "My kid comes first." This will result in a half assed union where both people are unhappy and somewhat resentful. Trust me on this one. Focus on each other FIRST. The child will grow up seeing that they are not necessarily the center of your world, they will see the love you have for each other, and it will make them feel safer and more secure in themselves. Just trust me on this one. Don't fall into the trap of "Kid takes priority." YOU TWO are the priority and the kid comes along for the ride. They will thank you for it later.

Just becoming young parents, so settle somewhere nice for a while. Once the kiddy is older they will want to explore and you will want to show them the world.

What's all this then with Elayna getting more seasick with age? You have been at it for 4+ years; is that enough time to correlate seasickness with your "advanced" years? Is your inner ear that of a 35 year old? (That's about the age where it would present such problems.) Perhaps a checkup at the otolaryngologist is in order. Maybe some herbal remedies for this that would be baby-safe: ginger, peppermint, fennel Definitely try to stick to it as long as possible since it's something you love and I love watching you share it! Would it be possible to post your latitude/longitude? I try to match your plots with Google maps, who knows, we might see La Vaga from space!

Hang in there, this too shall pass. Continue to, as the Quaker's say, "proceed as the way opens".

The best advice I ever got about my concerns of becoming new parents was actually no advice at all: I said "I don't know how we are going get through this". My good friend said "you just do". And he was dead on right.

Is it possible to have any of your mates come and visit right before the baby arrives and possibly to stay a little while after? That's a very tall order I'm sure with everyone's hectic lives but I know it would help tremendously. Seeing my mates is therapeutic to my soul. It rejuvenates me like nothing else. After that I guess it would to talk with your mates over Skype or something like it. Here's to wishing you the very best and good luck whatever you decide. Longtime follower and big fan of the both of you.

Unfortunately only time will tell what the future holds and where your family will flourish. the best advise I have is, "do not overthink it" which can relate to any road your Ohana decides to take. When I was pregnant with my first child...over 20 years ago...someone gave me a quote that helped me throughout raising children..."You'll Learn to lower your expectations about what you can accomplish in a day, some days it will be all you can to do keep baby safe, warm and in bed...and that will be enough"

my 2 cents, along what has been said above. Slow down; everything will take twice as long with the baby and they have a great habit of not going along with your plans. Maybe give yourself a break by staying on land for a few months, go to biweekly video schedule (ie your deal allows it); hire help if you can afford it and in general accept that you will not be quite as mobile as you are now. I had no idea what to expect before our oldest was born (she is now 14) and each of the three was an adjustment. There is no way to know ahead of time if sailing with a newborn will be your thing. You’ll find it out - so I would try not to stress out about it, hard I know. in any case thank you for a lovely video and hoping you’re not in Carolinas atm

My advice to both of you for what it’s worth is to slow down. You guys need to slow down and take it easy for a while. You both need a break before the baby arrives because after the baby arrives it’s going to be non stop all the time. You know that everyone will continue to support you because although there are a lot of great sailing channels out there non of them are as real and wholesome as your channel and that’s what everybody loves about you guys. You are really down to earth people so take it easy and make sure you take a decent break before baby Vagabond arrives. I wasn’t much help to my wife after our child was born because I had become somewhat disabled and my wife very rarely was given a break. Just do it! Love you guys ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

My suggestion. Come to San Francisco and live on your boat. Brilliant sailing community. Brilliant music community. Great environment. And they have daily nonstop flights to Sydney and Melbourne. What more could a couple (or trio) of vagabonds wish for?

I sent you an email. Too much for a comment! Follow your gut instinct. You may need to dry store the boat for a few months, have the baby, get the boat sometime later, and live near your family at anchor for a while. Sending our love!

PS, Purchasing a cat next summer and cruising the Bahamas 6 months out of every year

I agree with Tim Dake, I traveled in a 45' motorhome all over the states for almost 2 years with my two boys when they were 7 and 8. Home schooled them on board as well. Maybe consider getting a home port base in FL and taking return trips from there. You could spend 2 years in and around the Bahamas while the little one gets just a bit older for longer trips or even a trip back home.

So... As soon to be 1st time parents, one of the most important things to come to grips with, is the impending lack of sleep. Not just for E, but for both of you. Long passages will be completely unreasonable for quite a while, so don't plan too ambitiously. You will also need to adjust provisioning, depending on how well the little sprog eats. This will keep you around larger cities (take the bad with the good), for formula, wipes, diapers, supplies, etc. You will also be amazed at the amount of clutter that accumulates when a carpet grub is present. They don't create the clutter (that's from the parents), but it's much harder to control, when your world revolves around the youngster.

Yep, you need 6 months to get the baby thing under control and hang out with friends and family. Only then can you begin to decide what's next. * Also, please see my email to your media account from Broms family and respond if possible. Thanks!

I like your squall yell, "It's a Sqqqquuuuuaaaallll!" I did a study abroad program in college and sailed from Tahiti to Hawaii, I was always annoying the crew with my squall yell, "It's the big one! Mr. Squally!" There's something very satisfying about yelling at storms, or even just generally about them.

Just follow your heart, it'll tell you guy's what you should do (that's how you two started together), whether it's at sea, or on land it, it really doesn't matter. (If you do want to stay at sea, you'll probably need a guy like Stefan to be Riley's right hand man.) KISS, (Keep It Simple Stupid) It's not about anyone else, just Riley, Elayna and this new life that's coming into this world. It's definitely, not about patrons, family, friends, or (?) whoever. It's about you guy's and this lovely new life you've created out of your love for one another. There is a season (short or long) for everything, and a time for every event under heaven. You'll figure it out, one day at a time. Don't worry be happy! Love you guys, big hugs!!! P.S. Sorry I haven't hit the likes thing, (but I did this time), apparently it matters, so considered yourselves personally liked 10,000 times, or more. I logged off the games of this world sometime ago, it drains me.

Go home for a little it won’t take long before you all rejuvenate and realize your living your best life! We all need to take a step back some time and live a different life to realize how lucky we are.

Poor Elay! It’ll all pay off with a sweet child in your arms before you know it!

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We were told before our first baby.

There is also nothing wrong with taking a break - you could take 6 months on land just to get used to dealing with the new factor in your life with friend and family - then decide what is best. Maybe time will guide you to relocate your adventure much closer to home just to make that part of it easier for your to get home on regular basis....

I've read many of the comments. I'd add this: parents who follow their dreams raise children who believe they can follow theirs. I think of life as chapters. In this one, you're pregnant on board. Next chapter, you'll have a newborn. After that, a toddler, and so on. Focus on one chapter at a time and the decisions for that chapter will become clearer, less unbounded, and perhaps easier to make. You have every possibility!

Just to add to my last post,the Stem Ginger for nausea I use is crystallised in cube form,from supermarkets home cooking dept, its hot hot hot!!! funny that....

My view is Elayna & Riley - life is deal with it. as complex as it is - sail fair seas, go in circles if required - take the time out to make it work, off shore on shore - life will find a way. The key is here this is your house is on the ocean - life will find a way forward - take the time it takes to deal with it even us Patrons will deal with it. you have to do what you have to do - I know that seems obvious but thats what it is - take the path of least resistance - gently gently work it out. it will work out. XX Pete

Hi Elayna Riley,my post of yesterday vanished into the ethers so heer is a shortened version, seasickness any nausea is horrible so I fully sympathize with you ,I've been afflicted all my life now, 73 ,for nausea I find chewing Stem Ginger really works,for travel sickness try Stugeron 15 but consult doc or Chemist because you are pregnant. as a passenger looking straight ahead in a car seems to help me,If I drive then I am fine .If I was in your position I would plan to go to land and stay to have the baby for as long as it takes,there's a lot of follow ups after having a baby,make arrangements with parents/grandparents to be closeby,you will need their assistance.Being on a boat with a baby is not a stable environment, no pun intended,you need most of your attention on managing the boat when at sea..I presume the Arctic trip is off? good thing anyway you may have found it overwhelming, try not to worry,babies are born in far worse conditions and survive..its natural to be apprehensive ,but on land you will have full support. Take care, Luv Tony xx

Riley, My wife and I just had our third child about 4 months ago. This process that you two have embarked on, is hard. There will be times that are more difficult than others, the 2nd Trimester WILL be better. Stay your course and make sound decisions on where you have your child. The last month of pregency and the first 4 months after the birth are by far the most challenging due the the drastic change, FOR EVERYONE!

Riley, Great question you posed. Only you and Elayna know what is best. But as a loving Patreon you have my permission to do what you need to do. Go home and share this experience with your family. Then decide what works best. Your story has always evolved and has been interesting boat or no boat. Again, Congratulations!!

Riley asked to suggestions relative to the new reality: a child on the way. Here's what I'd say, as a father of a now 34 year old daughter. Put the child first. Whatever you two conceptualize for the future, sailing, not sailing, returning home, etc...it needs to be paramount that you think always, what is best for this new life we are bringing into the world. My guess is, from what I've heard on the video, that a hiatus from the isolation of sailing might just be in order. A return to the family and friends, seems the richest course. Document that. We'll follow. Sail again when you can, if you want, and if the child seems well adapted, but take your time, and attend unselfishly to nurture.

Hey you two!

Best Riley quote of the vid: " Yeah, we are going to head down.... Uh, Up... then head East.... Uh West..." :-)... If you want to read abut growing up on a boat from a kids perspective, "Boat Girl" by Melanie Neale, daughter of Cruising World editor at large and raised on a boat from 0 - 24... I sent you a Kindle copy.

Hey Riley! If you recall we met by chance on the dock in Turks & Caicos as I was preparing to dive with the Aggressor. I was the guy with all the gray hair as I am nearly twice your age. Anyway, I would encourage you both to continue your journey as you have to date. I suspect you may both be experiencing a bit of, “ The grass looks greener on the other side of the fence.” Those of us stuck on land in the daily grind dream of your life, while you may sometimes feel our drudgery looks appealing. Also, having been through pregnancy with my wife twice, there were many emotional swings beyond her control. Seems to be normal during development. In a few months you two will be rejoicing in raising an amazing child in an extraordinary world the two of you have created. Best of luck, and keep our dreams alive!

First off, DO NOT SWALLOW THE ANCHOR if at all possible. The possibilities for a child to grow up aboard and traveling the world are the best there is. In all my travels, the children of voyaging parents that have grown up aboard and seen remote parts of the world, met and got to know different cultures, are astounding in every way. They are centered, intelligent, mature, mild mannered and can flow in the company of adults as well as other kids. Home schooling is also a great thing. I do concur with others who caution making long passages in the first year after birth. I would say keep close to land, at a marina, if feasable

For my two pennyworth.As someone who has followed you for a long time I've been really impressed with your progress in so many ways. Follow your instincts they seem to have been good so far ! Also don't be afraid/reluctant to ask for help, especially when you come back to the boat. Take a friend or friends to help out initially, im sure you'll not be short of volunteers. Stay safe and happy.

From one new dad to another: 1. Keep up the foot massages. Especially in the 3rd trimester. Swollen feet suck. E will be forever grateful. 2. Dad of 2 here...all I can say is babies poop A LOT. That's pretty much all I remember. It gets everywhere. DO NOT bite your nails. 3. It gets worse before it gets better. Any plans you have, plan on changing them. Little Lenny is making the plans now. Besides that. No worries. Make it up as you go. That's what all us "veteran" parents did.

We just recently had a newborn (6 month now) — here are my top tips: 1). Sleep in different beds. Take turns during baby duty. If you decide to mix in formula also the dad can take a 2-4 hour shift at night. Otherwise try to not both be woken up constantly by the crying. 2) get a professional in like at least once a week for the first few weeks - in Germany you will get a midwife to visit you up to 16 times after birth. There is a million questions. Just to be able to queue them up till „Wednesday“ of when the midwife is in will give you peace of mind. Especially breastfeeding can be really tough if it doesn’t work right away. 3) consider having somebody else in reach to help you. Grandmas work wonders if you can rely on them for just a few hours to take care of yourself. Otherwise it’s easy to get into a cycle of stress and frustration if you give everything to the newborn.

oops, i meant south to north.

You guys need some land time, easy access to medics, easy access to dry land for Elayna to chill. Cruise the intracoastal waterway north out of the hurricane zone. Brilliant from a vlog point of view as well, as it would be really interesting to have a guide to the waterway from north to south. Take it really slow and stop everywhere, no overnight passages, lots of sleep tied up to a dock, no waves, no night passages for Elayna. All the benefits of land, with all the benefits of places for new material for your vlog. I'm sure lots of patreons would buy a guide to the intracoastal waterway as would participants on the ARC looking for what to do after the Caribbean season.

Piece of advice if you are in any kind of doubt..do not ,I repeat,do not come back to land and do not give up your lifestyle...you might miss ppl,trust me you are waaaay better off this way. No ppl,no problem. Love each other as you do,love your baby,school him at boat ....don't fix if it ain't broken. Love to both of you from Croatia,hope to see you some day.

At 75 I cant add much advice except to say now that our kids are grown & the grandkids too, I miss not having spent more time with all 4. I worked too much & did not take a lot of time off to spend with the family. Time just flew by! (My wife came in to vacuum & ask if she had her baby yet! I didn't realize she has been keeping up!) Just enjoy the time, sick, tired, stressed or whatever & completely enjoy the moments 1 by 1. Relax & in a few minutes, it will be next year & u will already have a year's memories to cherish with the little one & urselves. God bless u3 & keep sailing & loving. Luv 'ya!

We were in our mid and late 30's when our first was born. We struggled, to no avail, over how we would have to change to meet the needs of this new person. It was not until we decided that the new one was going to have to be integrated into our life-style that we found peace. Yes, we made changes. You always make some changes when entering into a new relationship. But we were suprised to see how tough a baby really is. And we laughed at how foolish we were because the life-style the baby accepts is the one we would give him.

Everything others have said and, I would look forward to a slow down and seeing more of each area.

Elayna: Do not worry... while pregnant your hormones are going all over the place... so it is totally normal to go from really high and low moments! do not worry at all! I am no parents at all, but i work in health as an Osteopath: the best you can do Riley is just been as understanding and listening as you can (as you already seems to be) but even more and let her know you are there without being too much onto her haha! (relationship...) but yes it is mainly the hormones imbalance that is now governing Elayna´s body and she is not used to it and therefore probably feels lost and a little out of herself /control, it will all settle in the last trimester (when physical pain will start... ahah just kidding) Your videos are still the best ever and I look forward every week to that little email telling me one has been updated! sometimes I even ignore for three or four weeks so I can relax in my boat with a beer and a pizza watching 4 episodes while my boat rocks in Norwegian fjords!

Hi Elayna and Riley and sweet baby to be, This phase in your life at the moment is temporary, I have several thoughts, first the safety of Elayna and the Baby are first, eg... stress, exhaustion , fatigue , falling etc.... The bigger Elayna gets the less she will be able to do, last trimester ( beached whale ) comes to mind, How you will feel not necessarily how you will look, Hard to see your toes and bend over and maneuver at the best of times nevermind being on a boat with the waves. 2nd Family is extremely important at the beginning of your newborns life, the connection and support will be so important for all Family on both sides , Grandparents and siblings and friends are so important for bonds. ( Invaluable ), 3rd , My opening statement , ( Temporary ), The older the baby gets depending on what you choose to do , 4 months of the yr, you could sail , which is an amazing education for your older child which is also invaluable, This opportunity is amazing for him/her , and would be envied by most, Balance for raising a well rounded Family is key here in this point. I like Garth Benthams first sentence. I / We personally love the water and boating, many Family excursions on our water vacations , trips with our 3 boys have had amazing long lasting memories and we always look forward to where we are going next. You and Elayna have the best of both worlds, Love to see what decisions you will make in the future , all the best to all 3 of you .

If you two are tired now it's only going to get worse during the first few months of having a newborn. Riley, not sure how you are going to sail while working on no sleep, safety first.

Do as you feel it's good for you. I think you definitely need to go back home for a while. Don't pressure your life and family for us. You have done so much for us already. And you wish after come back for new adventure and destination. We will support you in you decision. Don't forget it is a marathon and not a sprint.

Let me start with, I am sorry you are experiencing this and yes I can only imagine but imagine well how challenging having morning sickness (now probably all day sickness) on a boat can be. The constant motion, the rocking and swooshing, which is what your stomach is already doing can't be great. I do wish for you that it is over soon! My small piece of advice and its old advice and may or may not work, but my mother experienced morning sickness with all of her children with the exception of me, probably because of how amazing I am! With my oldest brother she spent almost her entire 1st and 2nd trimester being sick, the one thing that would save her was Ginger root. She would put ginger in teas, in her soup, sprinkle it on her foods and sometimes even take a sprite and add ginger just to help calm her stomach. I am sure you have tried all sorts of things and in some cases, it is just what you will go through but it does improve or you get used it! Either way I am I know that I could watch you and Riley exploring the lands and be just as amazed and entertained with what you all are doing as if you sailed everyday. Wishing you, baby and Riley a healthy and happy travels and of course that you begin to feel better soon Elayna!

It seems my post about an hour ago has gone into orbit ,I'll do it later, too tired to do now....

Do whatever you think is right for your child. Don't factor any of the Youtube stuff in. Babys don"t need Youtube...they need Love, food and doctor visits. And diapers.....a mountain of diapers.

Being a new father our little one is turning two next week. I would say do what you feel is best for you and let life tell you what decision to make. I know once we had our boy all I could think about was the amazing adventures I would get to take him on, and you guys are in an amazing position to get to expose him to the world and be there to see him experience it first hand. There will be no greater teacher than getting to travel and see things first hand. Elayna said it best you guys are lucky to be in a situation where you both get to be around your baby 100%, I decided become a stay at home dad when we had Hubble (named after the astronomer and space telescope) I enjoy it very much I love watching him grow and learn new things and for both of you to be there to teach him and help him grow it will only make him that much more capible and confident as he gets older. I am so excited and happy when I found out you were having a baby but what made me even happier was hearing that you weren’t planning to change up your lifestyle. Riley your going to have so fun being a dad, Elayna you are poised and ready to be an amazing mother. If you have any questions about rasing a free range wild child don’t hesitate to reach out. Can’t wait to see how your story unfolds and thanks again for bringing us along.

Keep doing what you are doing! Life with a baby will most certainly be different but you figure it out along the way. Children are resilient and can be raised in many different ways. On a boat isn't all that crazy. Kids grow up in campers/trailers so really what is the difference? The experiences that child will have and the knowledge they will gain from visiting many different places along the way is an education they will never get anywhere else. The beginning will likely be a tough transition but just remember...you can do it!

Hi Guys, for my 2 cents worth, this advise is based on you not wanting to stop sailing, So firstly if Elayna isn't coping I would slow right down, her health is the most important thing, and must come first. I think most patrons can handle the change that would come with slowing down. You could get another first mate for a few months, until the baby is born, that might help lesson the missing friends and family, because you'll have more people to interact with and of course help with the sailing duties. I do wish you both the best for this little bundle of transitioning joy that is about to come into your lives. cheers xox

Dear Elayna and Riley, I wanted to respond to your plea for advice but having read what many of your other Patrons have said there is not much left to say. In simple terms, it feels to me that because of the somewhat unique circumstances of your situation, you are beginning to recognize that everything will change in ways you cant even imagine. To be fair I was in blissful denial until I drove back from the hospital - and even then all i knew is that i didn't know. Focus on what you can do, what you can control. Slow down when you feel the need and when you are feeling spectacular (which also happens) use the energy. The changes you feel are all part of the process, when your baby is here you will laugh at all the things you worried about. Just like your trip, you never planned to be on an Outremer in the Barbados. Your new and more important journey is beginning. You will adjust beautifully to your new reality even if it feels like you are out of control. The worries you feel will fade and new ones will appear. The welfare of your child will be your number one concern for ever. This is just the beginning of what is the most challenging and most rewarding ocean crossing you will ever undertake. I wish you all the best.

Dear Elayna and Riley,

Well, as two young people who have not made a bad decision, really, in the past 4 years, always act responsibly and are generous, I am certain that you will make the right decisions for you both and already have a good idea as to what will suit you both best. However, seeing as you asked! If you stay in the US, then perhaps a trip home whilst “pantaloons” can still fly would be good, you both, your families and friends. A real battery recharge and for everyone to celebrate the good news. That will be a real booster. A base with a good, quiet and sheltered marina and opportunities for shorter but interesting sails and somewhere close a decent airport. That way friends and family can visit and the more help you get before Elaynetta or Master Riley can walk, the better. Though sailing has been a great apprenticeship for having a baby, as you will see. The very best of luck.

You guys are awesome. My advice: 1. Babies have been being born in lots of different conditions for many hundreds of thousands of years. They’re more resilient than you think. 2. That being said you need to look after them and yourselves as your priority over sailing or making vlogs if it comes to that. 3. Every child and pregnancy is different. 4. Having children is a lot like sailing - you need to read the tell tales and scan the horizons and sometimes it’s better to be in port. 5. Have a plan - but modify it all the time as you need and as circumstances demand. 6. Consider shorter sailing trips as a possibility. As a few have mentioned the Australian circumnavigation would be logistically easier for you guys (and would be interesting for your patrons); whilst at the same time being close to free health care and the school of the air/Brisbane School of Distance Education. ...and friends and family too! 7. Both of you should commit to spend more time looking after each other. “Little Roo” will do just fine and will benefit from witnessing important messages about how real men treat women with respect - and vice versa. 8. Finally, and most importantly don’t take anyone’s advice (including mine) if it doesn’t work for you. So looking forward to meeting you next week. Can’t wait. Kind Regards Craig

I'll just throw my two cents in since you asked :-).... from following you guys for close to three years now, my feeling from watching you is that sailing is your life!!!!!, however that doesn't mean you need to continually travel the world to do that, I think you would regret stopping and becoming landlubbers for more than a few weeks, that being said, you could live on the boat and explore the Bahamas for a couple of years, take patrons on board for a week or so, have your family and friends you miss so much come to visit you and stay on the boat with you.... they could call it a holiday... :-).... if you set up near an airport you wouldn't need to be running around trying to meet people all the time.... slow down and relax at bit, then once the baby is born and everything has settled down a bit in a couple years..... potty trained.... talking that sort of thing.... head back out as you have been if it feels right at the time, my family home schooled, my one brother and I went to school for a few years, learned to read, write , math....the basics and then we could self teach after that, my younger brother was home schooled from the get go, my mom taught.... it was a tough go because he didn't know the basics and mom, not being a teacher had a hard time explaining the concepts that a trained teacher can do.... I get seasick as well if I can't see the horizon.... which is why I build tugboats rather than sail them so I know what you must be going through and it's no fun.... being moored somewhere like where you are in this video.... looks very calm.... you'll be able to sleep, no seasickness, just morning sickness.... may be something to think about.... my two cents worth anyway.... doesn't mean you have to stop sailing.... just maybe change direction a bit

Perhaps too many "guy" statements for my comfort. Sorry I have to add another. Our baby plan was "no matter what, one of us stays home". Three beautiful confident, passionate children grew from that plan. Whoever had the better job supported the family. I was the stay at home dad. We were out of country, away from friends and family and felt alone. Well, say goodbye to those selfish feelings, your baby(ies) will dominate your time and most other high priorities become silly in comparison. I was lucky, I became focused on caring for my little one(s) and lived every moment with the joy and wonder parenting entails. If there was any "shake me moment" I would say "Riles, Elayna! Trust yourselves, believe in yourselves, your choices are the right ones, don't let anyone tell you otherwise" !!!! We live,work and play on the water. My kids miss it every time they are away from it and it gives them great comfort when they return. We love your videos, the kids are avid fans and we wish you the best no matter how that plays out. Riley, I would like to send you some info to help with stabilizing but I'm not a product endorser. Let me know how to send that info if you're interested.

I would say just slow down a bit and go with the flow after you see how you go when you meet your baby and get to know him. You could have the most easy going baby that starts sleeping through the night after 2 weeks (like my first baby) or you might have a colicky baby who cries and keeps you up all night most nights for the first 6 months (like my second baby). I hope and pray you get the first of these options and you can keep doing what you are doing,, but if not and you need to stop for a while or slow way down, you guys will still have a following (maybe not the exact same people) because you are fun and delightful to watch no matter the adventure, and because of your positive attitudes and easy going natures (not to mention Elayna's excellent video making skills. (she puts most self taught videographers to shame). Best of luck with the baby boy! Have you picked any names yet? Should all us patrons give you some options ;-)

I am an avid voyeur, but you might have to plan some personal days with the camera off, days just for you. I suppose like lots of soon-to-be mums and dads you wonder and worry how babies impact your livelihood. Particular to you guys though, is that your livelihood is so much a team event. Prime answer - babies are worth it. I am guessing that sailing and your unorthodox lives til now have taught you flexibility and opportunity. I am wishing you clarity in finding the right slant on your future of family, adventure and inspiring others. Personally, I wonder if the market for cute adventure couples with babies is currently ripe for picking. Go for it. But, before then, love each other and take care of Elayna.

Agree with @Jimmy Taranto. A small apartment or good marina to nest in for a while. Riley can do charters for patrons to be close by. My wife was bedridden early 2nd semester with our two, and medical issues like preeclampsia or gestational diabetes can pop up late in the pregnancy. Better to go to ground if that's what feels right.

Came here to echo a few thoughts others have said: friends back home mostly work 9 to 5, and are focused on their lives. Visit home to remind yourself and stay connected but forge your path; get them to visit you instead. As time goes on and families come into the picture, you'll gravitate to friends (new and old) who have kids too - and slowly go from seeing your bigger group of friends every week, to every month to rarer - and that'll be OK. As for feeling bad, my wife's first trimesters were notable in her absence (sleep, tiredness, etc.), so what you're feeling sounds similar to what we've experienced. Feeling the need for a 'home base' to nest is natural now; you need to decide whether that's the boat or a temporary land base. In early days/years, having support (midwife, parent, someone else on board or close by) makes life easier.

Short term I’d get a new sailor to help you out Riley and somebody who is a nurse or midwife or at least baby experienced to help out with the bèbè. Long term others have already provided sound advise about slowing down a bit, ‘don’t let the dream lifestyle burn you out’ I read l, which I think is at risk of happening. You’ll have more time to think, to enjoy and keep your options open. I don’t know your financial situation but I can’t imagine you’ve got much longer to go to pay off Vagabond ? Even if you do, strike a deal with builder to postpone till you’re both ready to continue. I reckon we your fans will stay loyal regardless if that’s a concern? Good luck mate

This is something I've kind of felt like saying from watching the videos for some time. I think it is what you are asking. "To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose under the heaven: A time to be born, and a time to die; a time to plant, and a time to pluck up that which is planted;" (Ecclesiastes 3, KJV) Don't let a blessing in one season, be a prison at others. Dreams are achieved, and make way for new dreams. We have growth in one place, and then other things come along to learn. As we get older our limits lessen, and our priorities change. Maybe someday a house near friends (mates for you Aussies), family, etc... would help the social situation and bring a lot of happiness. Or just spending more time near Australia/New Zealand. I'm not saying sell the boat and never go sailing again (unless you wanted to). But sometimes freedom is not being stuck as you currently are. I'd make plans to pay off the boat as soon as you can and become financially free, then you'll be able pursue decisions you may wish to make, when they present themselves. Just my thoughts. Hope they help.

Both of you should simply plan to go home and get your fill of your girlfriends/mates once or twice a year. Two weeks at a time is plenty of time to see everyone and to realize: they are still there, they hardly see each other these days, their not doing much accept working and raising kids like you. Trust me, you'll be itching to get back to LV in no time... I left the UK for Canada in 1985 and this strategy has worked great ever since. (Although, in all that time, I can't remember meeting an Aussie who didn't end up going home, and I met lots especially when I was younger. Must be something very special about that place...) Also, Riley, get a copy of "Parenting with Dignity" by Mac Bledsoe (Drew Bledsoe the quarterback's dad). Best parenting book ever! It came out in 2000 when my kids were young and I used many of its principles throughout their childhood.

One thing I wished I had learned when my sons were younger: your time is your time. By that I mean don't rush to meet other people's schedules or expectations. Nothing is on time with a newborn. And that's OK. Embrace it. When one gets frantic trying to stay on time, one unnecessarily create stress, I did. And in a short time, you'll blink and anything that made you late will seem insignificant compared to the joy of raising your child.

Elay, I am sorry to see you struggling. I wish I could help more than sending love and prayers. I can tell you from observing my wife, it gets better, it just does. Especially after you have your baby and quickly forget any discomfort for the joy that your baby brings! Hang in there! Hey guys, even though your lifestyle is one that any sailors would envy, I would imagine that it can feel like too much at times or just tiring. Just as all of us take breaks from our lives, it seems reasonable to take a break from LaVaga for a few weeks to go back home and get your fill of family and friends. I have to believe your patrons would wait for your return or would be happy with a quick video of your family - we need to know Tony’s fingers are ok :). Do what you need to do and your huge LaVaga family will support your decisions! As always, thanks for the great videos and the smiles you guys put in my heart!

Since you asked... once you start feeling lonely (for lack of a better word), it's not going to go away. In fact once you have a child, you'll both probably even more want / need to have friends and family around for moral support and a sense of belonging. It strikes me as you have a couple choices: One, you could change your lifestyle so that you were only sailing part time. For instance, maybe you give up the brand spanking new boat and blog parts of the year about fixing up a crappy boat (done near friends and family) and part of the year sailing your refurbished boat. Or maybe you start your sailing school and part of the blog is documenting all these goofy wannabe sailors and all their screwups. Two, you could figure out how to bring friends and family with you. By that I mean maybe you add 2-4 people to your crew on a permanent or semi permanent basis... continue sailing the world, but bring other people in with you that become not only crew members to keep you safe and share the work, but to build a social structure to keep you sane. Just thoughts...

Hello sweet friends! If we would suggest maybe staying a bit closer to home, Head back to Australia, maybe hire a team to sail LaVaga back for you. And then get that time with family AND stay on the boat. When you feel ready, head out with baby in tow and live the life you love more than anything! Home school that nugget (I was homeschooled and it was the best ever). We sailed, we adventured, I learned about birds and animals and being kind to strangers and to all living creatures. Know that everyone has your back no matter what decision you make. We love you so. Em and Dustin

I guess you will have a bit of time to think about all that in Australia after giving birth. Obviously I love your videos and they inspire me so I, like many of your fans I am sure, would probably feel like I am loosing something if you guys were to decide that you prefer to stop sailing, but at the same time 4 years is a long time and you've already done so much. But as a father of a 6 years old girl, I know that becoming a parent is a deep change and that it takes time to grasp what it means for you as individuals and as parents. It can be challenging at times, but it is also wonderfully rewarding. I am sure that you'll start to see more clearly what is ahead of you in the coming months as things settle a bit. I wouldn't overthink it.

Establish a land base and run charters for a few years, there will still be lots of opportunity for videography. Maybe rent a place that is close to an airport so that your visitors can get there easily. You want to have the most possible options because kids have a way of changing your plans. They also need to have the resources to grow into their own person. Also, vaccinate. In fact, if the kid takes after Riley an early tetanus shot wouldn't be a bad idea.

I would say that you give your child the gift of adventure and carry on. There is so much to see and learn in this world. And, a lot of us do not have the opportunity to do so. You will enrich your childs life and soul by letting him see the world through his own eyes, experience different cultures, touch, smell and taste this mysterious and amazing planet. What an amazing experience it will be for you three 🌸

My daughter was born about a year before we bought our boat, she was 5 when we moved aboard full time and my son three. All my fam live in the North East US so we did pretty well all on our own in Sydney Harbour, there are moments of amazing times, swimming with hump backs in Hearvy Bay for for months and moments of pure crap, dealing with drunken idiots on charters that have no regard for the time and effort that goes into a sailing cat, my kids had a great life, home schooled for 4 or 5 months of the year while we were away for haul outs, all their friends always wanted to come to theirs so short term go as fast as your slowest family, concentrate on Elayna's health (physical, mental, spiritual and emotional) and nutrition, building little humans is taxing on any mothers body, find a place that has all you need and maybe sit tight for a while. Nice drone footage by the way, fresh ginger works for preggers mums for sea sickness, very thinly sliced in lots of lime juice/water and salt with a bit of chilli for taste, let it sit in the sun for a day before eating. Try not to let Elayna get stressed just slow up, you'll get there when you get there and there aint no need to rush, when stressed the Sympathetic Nervous system kicks in (fight or flight mode) and redirects blood and energy away from internal organs to limbs and brain, exactly what you don't want for building little humans, so stay calm, cool headed and basically go as fast as she's COMFORTABLE going. Just relax, you'll get there.

I loved your adventures in Australia. If you could get the boat there, it would be fabulous to hear, see, and enjoy all of the islands, bays, bridges, etc. in & around Australia. With all these hideous tropical storms right now, that doesn’t seem possible. Maybe when the baby arrives? If possible, you could hire someone or two to sail the boat to Australia while you enjoy new baby time on land.

They way I see it your honesty and work ethic are wonderful. Riley will figure it out to support you the best way he can.

You're still very, very young Elayna. :-) I would imagine nobody has regular sleeping hours cruising the high seas. Night watches, time zones and now pregnant. All make for a restless sleep pattern. And more to come with junior on the way. Just remember to take life as it comes. Don't be rushed. Island hopping in the Caribbean can take up a lot of time. Stay longer and maybe do more exploring on the land. Relax, enjoy life as it comes to you as you mostly seem to be doing. :-)

Everyone needs a break from what they do. Sounds like a perfect time to take a month or two and go home and recharge your social and family batteries. That will be a source of strength for you when you need it. I think you can keep sailing if you like, because kids can be remarkably portable and adaptable. But my advice is take a break. This will get harder for Both of you as Elayna progresses through the pregnancy. That stress can be tough and I think would be greatly relieved if you took an “off the boat” break.

The journey is never ending. There's always going to be growth, improvement, adversity; you just gotta take it all in and do what's right, continue to grow, continue to live in the moment. You guys will be home on land soon for a bit to celebrate the birth of your child. I am certain you will both long to return to the sea and adventures after a little time has passed.

I remember those feelings. I have a boy who is now 20. He was colic and wouldn't sleep much. That was tough. I also have a girl who is 10 and was the perfect baby. When you have a child, you become second. Once you come to grips with that, everything else is easy. You will most likely gravitate toward interacting with others who have children. The best memories in life are raising the little ones. They make your life whole.

I have thought about your delema before. I grew up in a marina environment though part of the year we spend on land in the normal world. I have met along my travels many sailing families as I am sure you have also. One family had two catamarans and one trimaran and raised 7 kids on the water not all at the same time. When I met them they had a 16 year old and a 14 year old on one 30' cat. A 17 year old girl on the 2nd small cat. And the parents and the 5 year old on the trimaran. He was an engineer and she was a mom. They said once that they tried to stay on safe area close to civilization when the kids where tiny. But for the most part they just all traveled together in a little caravan. Watching those kids step the mast of one of the cats to repaint it, at anchor, using the other cat and the tri as a crane was amazing. The kids did it all, the father just supervised. It was amazing to see. And to see the kids leap from the deck into the dingy and all stand to fit and to shore. It was like watching gazelles jump and land perfectly. That's what your little knob has to look forward too. Anyway mates, maybe just get yourselves setup for like 6 months to a year someplace technically safe. Whatever that means... And about your mates, remember, you are a "destination" your selves. It's your responsibility to force your mates to come visit more. Where are your girls from home that came out in the Med? It's hard but I know it can be done!! Thank you for sharing so much of your thoughts and feeling about all of this. It really helps remember that we are all trying to justify our lifestyles and the guilt we sometimes feel about living outside the norm and maybe being more free than our mates. But mine tell me all the time to buck up and remember that they live through us and to know that. So get them to come visit!!

Continue to follow your head and heart. Don't ever be afraid to disappoint your patrons...always do what feels right to you both.

Also... if you need someone to keep you company Riley while Elayna is dealing with the sickness. I know just the guy. ;-)

Sorry -here is the rest; all good advice above especially Kim's. First of all I would get out out of the hurricane zone-perhaps take the Intra Coastal to a place where you can get hauled out if there is a hurricane threat. (we hung out in Annapolis, but that's a long way up) Next I would arrange to stay at a dock for the Kid's first year at least and this should be somewhere near a good hospital so if anything happens you can get there fast. Don't get me wrong we are midwife believers, but still you should be near medical help. You can do a lot of movies on the dock about the kid etc and we will all eat them up so don't worry about sailing anywhere! Better yet maybe one of of your patreon supporters has a nice little apartment they can loan you for a year. Anyways best of luck!

Well bugger, it seems like I would need to find something I liked doing soooo much that it took my mind right off of the uncomfy feelings I was having. Maybe like starting another music album aye. Have fun, be safe and KEEP ON, SAILIN ON. Cheers

Sir, I would suggest you keep going. Adjust for the kid but know women and kids are malleable with great resources for adventure. Kids are luggage and if you raise them right they will love you all the more for the opportunity. I’m the father of 5. My first son was killed as an infant in a car crash. He would be 33 on September 12th. A new wife and life and step daughter and step son (27 and 29) who I raised most of their life mixed with twin sons (18) has given me some perspective. My wife of 20 years had placenta previa with the twins and we almost lost her and the boys. She was on bed rest for months and still nearly died. The boys focused my life. Knowing you lead your own life as I have led mine. We focused on adventure and as a blended family we crossed the USA in off road vehicles, competed in archery, went boating on the inland lakes, and ran marathons in several states. Every day has been some kind of crazy adventure. The twins are in university, they have lived so much, for so long they are cool cucumbers to adversity. My jobs have been dangerous taking me to bad places but the family is well suited to taking care of itself in my absence. The common thing is often the easy thing. Adventure is the greatest teacher of all and heck I’m a former tenured professor and PhD. Let the compass of your life point toward your hopes and dreams and not your fears. The challenges of a baby on board are significant. I was one once. On a much smaller boat than yours I sailed months on end for many years with my parents. Much of my success as a soldier, marine, police officer, spy, and professor is because of those early experiences. Live life like you love. To the max you can sustain. Why take that from your child?

Hi Riley and Elayna

Riley and Elayna, You’re both young, I think you’ll be able to handle anything life throws at you for quite a few years yet. If you both feel the wear and tear getting at you, slow down. There is no reason for you to follow some set timeline, just do what you can when you can. When the bambino comes, it will be different. Riley, you said ‘harder’; I don’t know, you may find it isn’t harder, just different. You both will be awesome parents. Don’t worry. You’ll figure it out. Some things just can’t be planned out in the smallest detail. You both do great work, you’re both entertaining, and if you can eke out a living doing this, do it for as long as you can. But take time to go home and visit the grandparents, and make sure your baby gets enough Vegamite in his formative years. Don't get burned out living the dream. And watch out for squalls.

For what's its worth I'd avoid any major changes during, and just after the baby is born. Just make sure you're in as comfortable and familiar a routine as you can. Maybe slowing down a bit, or having a loved one, someone you are really familiar with stay with you so you guys get some support and comfort these last months. Those first weeks and months after the baby is born are a blur, and you come out as different people. It's a joyful experience. But also stressful and at times lonely. Having support helps (not too much support or you'll want to strangle said support person LOL). Don't do anything because you feel like you have to, trust your instincts.

Keep doing what you are doing. With my wife and our two boys her pregnancy changes week to week. If you need to slow down one week do so. One word of advice ZIP YOUR LIP in the third trimester. Zip it. don't push it, to see if she will overreact, she will. Six hours of crying because I made a salad the wrong way. One of my colleagues didn't take my advice and "poked the tiger" as he liked to say. I asked him when she stopped crying and he responded she was still crying when I left in the morning.

Love all your videos! Congrats to you both... Having a child is such a life changing event & until you go through it you don’t really understand. One upside to all of your sailing experience is that it should prepare you for the sleepless nights to come, haha! The best thing about your lifestyle is that you DO have the flexibility to slow down. Don’t set deadlines or expectations... and don’t feel bad about needing to slow down, or change plans day to day. Cheers!

Elayna you're a bad ass. Sending you lots of love and good vibes!

I guess I'd suggest taking it as it comes to you. Meaning, be flexible enough to pull in and park when you need to and pull up stakes when you want to. After all, that's what you've been doing all along. Exploring at your pace and seeing some wonderful places. You are setting the bar for all folks experiencing this life style and we appreciate it that you actually "ask" what would we do? Love you guys!

Amazing video, you always manage to keep it real and show both hard and good times. As a 20 year old my advice wouldn't be very useful about this situation but I want to say that "ITS A SQUALL!!"(Riley's pirate voice). Joking apart, I will support and respect you guys no matter what. Love you, cheers !

Wish I had good advice for you guys but as a 20 year old, this is out of my realm of experience...that being said, just trust the process, trust each other, and trust in the decisions you make along the way. You two seem to be some of the most level headed people I have seen and ultimately things will turn out the way they are meant to be :) Thanks for sharing your journey! <3

Great show. Maybe you can find a small apt on the islands and Elayna and you can relax on drylands for a week at a time. With all the patreon's Im sure we know people with homes that would welcome you free go charge. I have family in North Miami Beach that live on the intercostal that would give you a place to stay for a while if you guys make it that way. Im sure you will both be fine, you both are a great couple and love each other a bunch.

Always good going along on your journey! As both a parent and a nurse, one of the best parenting pearls I can give you in your situation is to be prepared for any medical situations that could arise. You spoke with my hubby about a few medical things I believe when he ran into you while you were in Norman's Cay. I can tell you that my son went with us on his very first boat ride when he was just weeks old, and even though we never lived on a boat, my kids were raised exploring the Bahamas ever since they were very small. Being prepared for the things like ear infections, allergic reactions to bug bites, learning CPR and how to care for a child that is choking is important for ALL parents, and on a boat there is not always a way to call 911 - so prepare your medical kit and ask your pediatrician to give you extra prescriptions for all the possible ailments (and then some!). ALSO (sorry so long), Elayna, breastfeed your baby as long as possible! I breastfed my daughter until she was almost 2 (YES, almost 2), and even now, at 21, she has rarely been sick. My son, now 24, my first-born, I gave up at 2 1/2 months - he was always coming down with something, and still does! Love to you both! Thanks for sharing your journey as always!! Kim and Julio

Wow. Stunning video. Elayna you mentioned youd like to stay n bahamas forever. Maybe you could stay grounded there if morning sickness gets too unbearable? Remember this is only temporary. Referring to the nausea,sickness etc. Once you have lil riley then resume sailing. I havent done sailing,except for whale watches,so im a land grandma just tryna give feedback. Hope you feel better soon. You two are amazing people. Love to you both. Quick question,was that peanut butter with blue berries on toast? Looked good. Ok toodles

Great video! I hope you feel better soon. You can slow down and enjoy a place for a while. Or have more friends and family visit you. I'm looking forward to my vacation in the Bahamas in late October.

Keep doing what your doing and incorporate the Lil guy into your lives. We have 3 boys and have been boating with them since they were infants, but we did not live on a boat ! Throttle back and enjoy your new addition.

Elayna, it's your first kid, you don't know what to expect - no one is ever really prepared completely for the first (I have 4 boys). I recommend slowing down a LOT and find support from a mid-wife or hospital on an island. Hold up until you get your bearings - might be a while...

Keep the fuzzy end up.

3rd! Woo Hoo! Now I'll watch it! Ha Ha!

My wife struggled in the first trimesters with both of our children... that was on dry land in a very comfortable house! How you have coped so far is incredible! My only advice is to be there for everything Riley, support Elayna with everything and just be there mate. The best time (and most challenging time) is coming up, you guys will be naturals.

Sorry your not feeling well today! No fun :(