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I definitely agree it’s why I try to use as little labels as possible when describing myself because when people see a label especially when it’s concerning politics, religion, or gender identity they immediately jump to having either a positive or negative reaction to it and I’d rather people form their own views of me without any bias. What I said about labels also applies to groups and fandoms which also causes people to jump to conclusions based on their own views or what they heard others said about those groups and fandoms thus painting all members of it with the same brush. the bigger the group the worse it gets because when there’s a lot of people banded together there’s a higher chance for some of those people to be bad people and those people because the poster children of the groups they’re apart of because they’re often the loudest and people who are infamous get more attention then those who are famous especially online. It’s why so many people view the LGBT community as a whole as a bunch of sexual predators or worse, and when the good people in the community try to explain themselves or disown those who’ve done bad they’re ignored because the masses have already painted them all with the same brush and refuse to engage with them. Then those same people go around saying stuff like “the Trans are coming after our kids!” Which causes further damage LGBT people as whole because the majority of people buy into that fear mongering.

I agree over simplification of a person's identity and expression for the sake of societal norms holds all of us back. 🩵🩷🤍🩷🩵🏳️‍⚧️🫂

I'm glad that you made this showing your stance on all of this. Personally, I don't think the femboy label is inherently bad, although I never got too deep into the community, but I know that it went much deeper than what I got to, especially on tiktok and other places (none of which I care for, so don't bother with, which probably helped in me not getting too deep into the "dark side of femboys") I started off as cishet male, then went to cis pan male, then internally questioning pan male?, then FEMBOY pan male, finally ending up with somewhere around transfem tomboy/biker chick. I got to where I am now, not by waking up and thinking, "huh, I'm a girl", but by trying different labels and seeing what worked, then adding or taking them off. I will still probably be changing them until I die, but that's how life goes and I wouldn't want to still be cishet male, since I've learned so much about myself and others by being open to new labels. My point is, I don't think that any label is inherently bad, it depends on who is saying it, what it means to them, what the label means to others around them and also where the conversation is happening. The internet isn't the right place to have certain labels, even if they are "SFW", since as you said, they can attract the wrong people. Here at least, the whole f-boy (that looks bad without context) thing is your choice and I'm glad that you can make that call and be willing to speak about it. Also, I never knew you were trans, and am very jealous of your vocal range, even moreso now than before My full list of labels I currently use would be something around transfem tomboy/biker/rocker/metalhead/musician/pansexual/nerd/introvert/gamer/engineer/pilot, but that's a whole lot of labels that describe me with some seeming to contradict each other (tranfem tomboy), so I typically would shorten it down to what I feel is most important in the moment, with the other labels being part of me. A label, to me, is simply an identifier, since explaining the nuances of my personality without them would take a long time, so I like them for that, also they give a sense of "this is me, I like this". At the end of the day, everyone will identify differently and have different opinions about different things, but we are all going through changes throughout life and shouldn't be restricted to a single label (male or female). Sorry about long message, hope someone who needs it reads it and it helps them. Stay safe, make the best decision for yourself first, then those you care about.

can you describe the feeling of not being comfortable in your own body .(sorry this sounds so rough and you don't have to do it am just curious because am happy for the most part with my body and I am curious about how a person with feelings such as your self sees the world and such )((again am sorry for the long message and for such a hard question )

Hi. I'm your listener from Russia. We don't raise the issue of identity here, so I can't really talk about it (because I don't want to make mistaken statements). But I think, that you are making fair remarks. Sorry for my English 😅 (P.s. love your audios <3)

I'm not entirely sure what I feel or how I feel through all my time in my life I've been a masculine but I've always felt some way about my feminine side because it gives me some confidence im still very unaware about what I really classify myself as I'm still kinda figuring myself out but I really can't freely explore that Because one side of my family is very anti lgbtq so I feel as I can't ever really express myself unless I eventually get out on my own sorry for the small little rant/explanation >~<

As one of them genderfluid folks, i find this kind of discussion just the most interesting (and often times important) things

Mate. Your analytical nature in how carefully you wish to navigate these topics shows how deeply you care for your community. Don't worry, you're doing great!

Mitsu we are here for you and thank you for feeling comfortable telling us about you being trans. I'm thankful that you trust us so much. I understand that you will not longer be using the word Femboy and I understand completely and I agree and respect it. Thank you for being so welcoming to us and to me. I wish you work continues to go crazy well for you. I'm sorry that you missed out on your childhood but I'm glad that you are here with us. Just be you and only you can br you. Thank you.

Sigma, I won't be able to listen cus I'm at the bros house🤣