Download: Attachment Styles (A Gameplay Mod)
✅ July 4, 2026: This mod is compatible with the latest game version.
REQUIREMENT:
Base Game Compatible
XML Injector by SCUMBUMBO
So, I've recently been playing through the Lovestruck expansion pack, and was inspired to create a mini relationship mod that adds attachment styles to your Sims! This mod is base game compatible but requires the XML Injector by SCUMBUMBO.
This mod comes with four (4) traits that represent the four main attachment styles:
• Secure Attachment Style: Sims with a secure attachment style are confident and comfortable in their relationships. They form healthy, trusting bonds with others and are adept at balancing independence with intimacy.
• Anxious Attachment Style: Sims with an anxious attachment style crave closeness and reassurance. They often worry about their relationships and need frequent validation from others to feel secure.
• Avoidant Attachment Style: Sims with an avoidant attachment style value their independence and often feel uncomfortable with too much closeness. They may keep others at a distance to protect themselves from vulnerability.
• Disorganized Attachment Style: Sims with a disorganized attachment style display unpredictable behavior in relationships. They may fluctuate between seeking closeness and pushing others away, often due to past trauma or inconsistent caregiving
The traits are located underneath the Emotional Category in CAS (Create-A-Sim) and are only available for Young Adults-Elders. Also, Sims can only have ONE attachment style at a time.
INSTRUCTIONS:
In order for the Attachment Style pie menu to show up, you must have a decent friendship and romantic relationship with your partner. If it does not show up, continue to build up your relationship with that Sim! In order to access the menu, you'll need to click on the Sim you have the romantic relationship with. There you will find a few interactions based on your Sim's attachment style.
The Avoidant, Disorganized, and Anxious attachment styles also come with 1-2 self-interactions when you click on YOUR Sim. For these interactions, they will not need another Sim to complete.
NOTE: Be careful with some interactions. Your Sim may get very angry or very sad, which makes it easier for them to die of emotional deaths!
Custom Buffs:
I also added a few custom buffs to some of the interactions. Note that not ALL interactions will come with a buff. Also, some buffs may show up on the Actor Sim (The Sim performing the action) while other times it will show up on the Target Sim (The Sim receiving the action) Here are a few examples below:
There are also notifications that your Sim will get for a few of the interactions.
Disclaimer:
I understand that there is some nuance when it comes to making personality mods. I also understand that there is more to attachment styles than what this mod portrays. Though a complex topic, this mod simplifies it for gameplay purposes.
hope you enjoy!
— E. ✧
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Need additional help? Find my Discord channel HERE.
Portuguese by Cina
Chinese by Abonnie
7/31/2024: Made an update to the Secure Attachment animation in CAS + added more custom buffs and notifications.
9/18/2024: Compatible with Patch 1.109.185
10/23/2024: Compatible with patch 1.110.265
12/3/2024: Compatible with patch 1.111.102
1/14/2025: Compatible with patch 1.112.481.1030
1/28/2025: Compatible with Patch 1.112.519.1020
3/2/2025: Updated for patch 1.113.277.1030
3/20/2025: Compatible with patch 1.113.297.1220
4/30/2025: Compatible with patch 1.114.46.1030
5/30/2025: Compatible with patch 1.115.216.1030
7/1/2025: Compatible with patch 1.116.202.1030
8/22/2025: Compatible with patch 1.117.221.1020
9/18/2025: Compatible with patch 1.118.242.1030
10/2/2025: Updated for patch 1.118.257.1020
11/4/2025: Compatible with patch 1.119.109.1020
12/2/2025: Compatible with patch 1.120.111.1030
3/23/2026: Compatible with patch 1.122.218.1030.
5/12/2026: Compatible with patch 1.124.54.1030
7/4/2026: Compatible with patch 1.125.59.1030
Comments (56)
Hi, Elle! 💚 Thank you for creating such an amazing mod! I made a Brazilian Portuguese translation for Attachment Styles, fully translated and manually localized to preserve the original meaning, context, and The Sims 4 terminology. It has also been updated and tested with game patch 1.126.73. If you'd like to check it out: https://www.patreon.com/camisssims/posts/traducao-styles-165201167
yay now i can make my sims disorganised like me <3
i want it or something that will let my sim be anixious attachman
i absolutely love this mod and all of your work!!! i was wondering if you can make a version where the traits are moved to the preferences menu or maybe buyable traits from the satisfaction store? alot of the time my sims dont have anymore room for traits and i really want to use all these cute interactions :(
Exist certain mod what add room to personality traits
Is it compatible with the current patch?
I wonder the same
why are all my mods going into custom mods? shouldn't they be going into scripted mods?
Hey!! I've been doing 50/50 with my game and your mod is broken. It keeps kicking me to the world menu.
is it still not working?
Hello! I've translated this mod into Ukrainian: https://www.patreon.com/posts/ukrayinskii-modu-132474864
Hii, here is a translation for portuguese: https://www.patreon.com/posts/traducao-do-mod-135089884?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link
Queria deixar claro que minhas traduções são feitas de forma gratuita, por favor veja o post antes de vir me xingar, tem vários criadores que cobram pelas suas traduções e não vejo nenhum deles sendo xingados
hi. Will there be an automatic assignment of the type of attachment in the form of rewarded character traits?
I really looking forward to using these, as I have dabbled with the topic a lot in the last years (I was secure, leaning anxious and I befriended someone avoidant - not sure if dismissive or fearful). I worked a lot on myself and am re-typed more or less fully secure now. So my question is: Can Sims naturally re-type in game with these traits, maybe due to expirience? I know the game sometimes make non-commital sims more commital through self-discovery.
can sims get these styles autonomously?
i downloaded this on my mac and its in my mods folder but i cant find in CAS where i can give then attachment styles help
i have the XML injector downloaded btw
is this fine with the recent update?
Hi hun all of my mods are almost always going to be compatible with recent updates. If you want to make sure, check the change log under my posts or the update log pinned to my page.
hi, it's this mod compatible for the recent update?
xml injector atualizou hoje, você tem previsão pra atualizar esse mod?
this is so creative and amazing!
Hi! I love those, so significant, thank you! I have an idea, maybe you can add possessive attachment style
I wish it was for teens too
can this trait obtain from reward store?
Do I have to have the new expansion pack
Hi, no hun its base game compatible.
is this compatible with 1.107.151 or 1.107.112?
Hi, it is updated and compatible.
Do sentiments affect attachment styles or is there no relation between the two systems?
Sentiments don’t affect attachment styles, but an attachment style can affect sentiments. For example, if an avoidant Sim hurts their partner’s feelings, then the partner may get a hurt sentiment.
great idea to create relationship styles. But I think this mod needs to be expanded and increase attachment styles. and add here such attachments as relationships for money, among other things. And dependent when one partner becomes dependent on his partner. unhealthy love when the ex-partner begins to pursue his other half and sort things out with her even after breaking up. There can be a huge variety of them, so I ask you to expand and improve the mod. don't chew it up. And don't stop at just these four styles.
It's really good as is, so I hope you don't feel pressured!
Love it!! can't wait to play with it!! <3 <3
Thank you so much xx
do you need lovestuck pack to have this??
according to the 1st paragraph of the post you don't need it but there are other requirements
Thank you so much for your hard work! Once I start working I’m definitely subbing I enjoy your mods so much you’re so creative. Can’t wait to use this, thanks again!
Thanks so much hun, I appreciate your support and kind words! Hope you enjoy! 🤍
I love it!
Thank you! 🤍
Does this work during gameplay, too? Like do they randomly get assigned a type of attachment or do you have to manually do it? This is amazing! Thank you! ❤️
Hey hun, you have to set their attachment style in the trait section in CAS first. In terms of gameplay, they will autonomously do the interactions based on their attachment styles! 🤍
This is exactly what I was looking for, thank you so much!!!
That’s great to hear, thank you hun! 🤍
yay!!! this is amazing!!! thank you!!!
Thank you! 😊
this is about to be my most used mod lol. thank you! 🤍
Lol, hope you enjoy! 🤍🫶🏾
Got mine!
Yay, thanks Shan!🫶🏾😊
this is so cute, thank you!
Thank you! And of course! 🤍
thank you so much.
You’re welcome, hope you enjoy! 🤍