Post from Patrick McDonald · November 11, 2025

I’m 40 years old today here in Zipolite, Oaxaca.

Life certainly is a trip. I’m very grateful that, at this stage in life, mine has evolved into a trip that is full of exploration and wonder and love and people that fuel my soul.

I love being 40. I’ve never felt more aware of who I am, what my values are and what is important to me. I feel more at home within myself than I ever have. I no longer feel a strong need to please people. I create boundaries for myself and others. I say no. If I don’t want to do something, I’m not going to do it. I feel healthy, strong, content and solid. I am lucky enough to be loved by a great man. I really couldn’t ask for more.

I’ve most definitely stumbled a lot along the way, but if I’ve learned any standout takeaways in my 40 years on this planet, they are:

Take risks. Run towards the things that scare you. Quit the things that no longer serve you as quickly as you can. Give your best and then release it. You miss every shot you don’t take. Don’t be afraid to burn your life to the ground and start anew. I’ve done it a few times now and not only is it quite fun, it has always lead me to a more exciting place. Learn how to negotiate on your own behalf and do so fiercely. Be nice to everyone until they give you a valid reason not to be. Speak up for what’s right. However, you don’t have to have an opinion on everything. When you screw up, apologize quickly. When they screw up, forgive them quickly. Even more importantly, forgive yourself. For everything. Yes, even that. Don’t be afraid to tell someone you love them. Don’t be afraid to let someone love you.

Life is short and your time is yours. Find out what brings you the most joy and follow that. Do whatever the hell it is that makes your heart sing and let go of anyone who tries to steer you in a different direction.

To all the beautiful people in my life who make my heart feel full, thank you for making 40 feel so fresh. I am a lucky man.

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