Let’s establish something crystal clear:
Never send me a lone ‘?’ DM.
A single punctuation mark is not communication. It’s impatient, it’s rude, and it reeks of entitlement. When you send me a ‘?’, what I actually hear is: ‘Your time doesn’t matter, I demand your attention now.’

If you want to talk to me, then use your words. Say hello, ask your question politely, or express what you’re feeling. Show me you know how to communicate like an adult instead of trying to nudge me like a notification.

And if you’re hoping for a reply to something I didn’t respond to before? Don’t ever tap out a question mark—show respect. You can send a humble, thoughtful message instead. For example:
💬 ‘I’d really appreciate a reply when you have a moment.’
💬 ‘I know you’re busy, but I’d love to hear back about what I asked.’
💬 Or better yet—send a tribute with a polite note reminding me what you’re hoping for.

A message that’s thoughtful, respectful, and complete is one I’ll actually want to answer. A lonely question mark? That’s the fastest way to make sure you’ll never get the response you’re looking for.