For those who just want the sexy, flirty, teasing vibes of my page feel free to skip this post (and any others with the label “human”, no offense taken and no judgement! But for those who may want all that with a dose of humanity as well, read on 😊

Let’s talk for a minute and get real about my right hand man. LUBE. Lube is an absolute essential for me in the bedroom. It makes everything more pleasurable for me when there isn’t any worry about friction. Time for me to get real vulnerable…it can be hard for me to get my body to always have the arousal response I want. SO many parts of my life play into this. Neurodivergence and difficulties with connecting my mind and body, mental health struggles, medications, where I’m at in my monthly cycle, having a responsive arousal type, etc.. All of this can have an effect on how much natural vaginal lubrication I produce on any given day. And I almost always have to add lube in as an extra helper to avoid any pain or uncomfortableness.

This may come as a surprise to you as it can be easy to think that people on OF or other sex workers are always horny or can be “dripping wet” within seconds. And I get it! That’s the sexy fantasy thing to think or what you want to hear to know that what you’re doing/ saying is arousing someone. But this is your dose of humanity meant to remind you that I’m just a normal woman who has things that affect her sex life just like anyone else, and this is my reality.

It takes time for my body to reach those levels of physical arousal and even times when I’m extremely turned on and into everything I still may not produce enough natural lubrication for things to feel comfortable. This is why lube can be such an essential for some people like me. Even for solo play, if I’m using toys you can bet that I’ve used lube with them as well! Even when I’m not using toys and just doing things manually I will often add a little lube. Fighting against having any friction while trying to allow for natural arousal just makes that process even longer for me. But when things feel smooth and nice, that physical arousal comes a lot more easily.

There should be no shame in using lube in the bedroom. It doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong. It doesn’t mean they aren’t into it. It’s your wingman that helps to increase the levels of pleasure! So for those out there that also need an extra hand in the bedroom, I see you! And for those who get by on their own, let this be a reminder to keep it on hand as it can allow for greater pleasure for both your partners and yourself, which is something I think we all want 😊

And no this is not an ad for Lube Life, it just happens to be the current lube I’m using! I do enjoy it though and would give it a good review for anyone who might be looking for recommendations! Just make sure you are using the right type of lube for your toys to avoid any breakdowns 😋

Love, Princess 💕