Good Afternoon and Happy Saturday! So as you know, I get a lot of messages and a message I received today just inspired this post! Look, at the end of the day, the truth is simply that we all have fantasies - well, at least 95% (and no don't quote me as I don't have a scientific statistic to back that, but even if I did, there's a good chance that it is completely made up or skewed to support the author's point!). But let's just all agree that there is some percentage of people that have fantasies and I think it is safe to say that at least 50% have at least one unspoken fantasy!

Look, to have a fantasy, especially an unspoken one, is a little scary, because you fear judgement and being rejected - I mean - what would your partner think of you if they found out that you wanted this or that? I get it, it is intimidating! Now let me just say, that there is a high likelihood that your partner has an unspoken fantasy that they are currently afraid to tell you! And I think I just repeated myself with what I wrote - apologies!

So let's say your partner has never tried spicy food and you want the person to try the world's hottest pepper with you - do you think it would be a good idea to come to the person, who has never tried spicy food and say, "hey, I really want you to eat this super hot and spicy pepper with me?" No! Instead you might say, "hey, so I was thinking about this one restaurant and while they have some somewhat spicy dishes, I think I would be interested in giving it a try - what do you think?" Now at the end of the day, you know you don't care for the "whatever spicy", you know you want the "ultra spicy", but don't lead with that! If it turns out they like the "whatever spicy", then perhaps next time say, "since you enjoyed that, would you like to try the medium spicy?", etc. etc. What I'm saying is, match the person where they are at today, and if they embrace a little bit of change, then slowly continue to turn up the heat, but don't turn it to max heat when they are currently cold or you will most likely get the response you do not want to receive - is this making sense?

You want to go in soft, simply bring up the topic, perhaps over a glass of wine or what have you, but don't go all in or there is a good chance, the person will say no! It is also the whole idea of testing the waters. The person messaged and made mention that they liked the feel of a butt plug in their ass and they were worried about what their partner might think. Look, the fact of the matter is, there are a lot of guys out there who love having something in their ass - both gay, straight and whatever in between! Wanting a beautiful woman to push a strapon in your ass does not change your sexuality or desire for women over men or vice versa (but again, I don't have any scientific insight to back what I'm saying and with anything, I could always be wrong)! LoL

But now I feel my post is once again all over the place. The key is, whatever your fantasy is, it is much more hot when your partner knows too. And if you share, and open up, there's a good chance, at least a better chance, that they will open up and share their fantasy with you. I think the key is to use online fantasy, porn, in a smart and responsible way. As an enhancement to your sex life - not a substitute! You know you need to eat healthy, but if you continue to choose ice cream over smart choices, well, there's a good chance you will never eat healthy - make sense. And at the end of the day - who doesn't want to be healthy? It's a choice we make, and the truth is, there are a lot of things in life that are hard and require an extreme amount of discipline! And I'm not talking the fun kind, the naughty kind, I'm talking about the waking up early, putting in the hard work, the time and stuff that most people refuse to do or simply do not have the heart to do.

Look, being real here, porn is an easy choice and an escape. You don't have to fear rejection, you can get all the novelty you desire, but at the end of the day, it is a complete substitute for the real thing. Now keep in mind, for those who are single, being in a relationship, whether dating or married doesn't mean you have a life of continuous and crazy sex either - unless of course you are married to an online fantasy sensation like myself - but I digress LoL :)

So yes, I don't know what I'm trying to get at with my words, other than I want you to have the courage to get what you want in life, to not be scared and to speak up. Put yourself out there. Women love confidence. If you are single, try a dating app, go out with friends, be social and when you are out, smile and have the confidence to look women in the eye. If you are nervous, have a drink, but the key is get out there.

I can't say enough, I am grateful for the money and the support, but it makes me even more happy when I know that I've made a positive impact in the person's life. When someone had the courage to go talk to their partner about a fantasy. When someone had the courage to listen to advice and try a different approach and then hear how better things are going. Look, if you really think about life, do you think it is others or ourself that gets in our way most of the times? The truth is, the person stopping you, more times than not, is completely yourself.

But that's the problem, no one wants to face the music and embrace that it is them holding themself back - why? Because it is easy to blame others. It is whether you have in internal locus of control or external. As I type that, I feel if I made a responsible choice I would look it up just to verify I got it right, but I'm quite confident I do LoL :)

So yes, have fun, be naughty but live life smart and responsibly! No regrets. It's funny, because you hear these stories, and I think there is a "term" for it, I just don't know it. But believe it or not, there are guys out there who will basically fall in love with a content creator, give way more money than they should responsibly give, the creator of course takes, and through seduction and skill takes more and more, milking the person for as much as she can get, and then eventually, when the guy realizes that the love is one sided, the guy walks away angry, disappointed and wishing he had never spent the money!

Hear me now! I never want anyone having that experience with me! It is why I am so radically focused on the creation of the erotic art versus and trying to make a positive impact while at the same time making money! I want my art to speak for itself without requiring my "oh please hunny, buy 10 videos, I really need it" approach. Now again, I don't want to come across as a "know it all", because I'm not. I can tell you almost every day I am rethinking my approach, evolving and coming up with a new way.

But that's really it, so take all I said with, "a grain of salt", in that it is just my opinion and thoughts based on experiences, interactions and things I've heard from others and from various YouTube podcast discussions, etc.

The main point is for you to find your happiness and having the courage, once you know what you want, to go and get it. Make sense?

If I can be a responsible enhancement to your naughty world - thank you, I'm delighted, but please, don't miss out on life because of me - understood?

I hope you find, as always, much value in my words and that your today and tomorrow are both better than your yesterday because my work inspired you to think and take action....

This isn't just naughty - as a good friend once told me - this is people helping people...

XoXo,

KS