Good Morning, Happy Sunday and Happy Father's Day! I hope you had good dreams and you are excited for the day. I woke up this morning and went for a walk which was quite nice. How are you? Did you get out and do something fun last night?

Oh, and since most seem to like the advice I give in posts, would you like to know a secret to getting what you want? Now this doesn't always work, but believe it or not, more often than not, it works. Let's say there is a charge on a bill that you don't want to pay or you are trying to get a complimentary upgrade at a hotel.

The key is, never demand. Never tell the person what they are going to do for you. Instead, let's say it was a charge on the bill example, instead call the company and say, "hey, so I'm confident I messed up and I owe this amount and that there is absolutely nothing you can do to help me, though if there was any way possible to waive it, I would be so very happy - now again, I don't think anything can be done, but I simply had to call and ask".

I wouldn't recommend copying and reading this like a script, but the idea is you are already starting the conversation with accepting the worst case answer which is you are going to have to pay. That's a good thing.

Now depending on how you deliver it, your tone of voice, a resigned, kind of helpless, but not overboard tone, you are humbling yourself and placing the person on the other line in an elevated position of power to help. You are saying, "I can't do anything, and that's ok, but if you could do something, which I don't think you can do, you would really, really make my day".

So now the person on the other end of the line needs to think, and in my experience, more times than not, your interaction is completely different than the other one hundred interactions that person has had that day. I've found that by doing this, the person will more likely want to help you, because you've taken the pressure off. The person will feel like you work for them, versus the typical they work for you.

It is like the person will want to prove to you, that indeed, they have the power, the ability to do something, because you in a smart way have said that you don't think they can, so it is almost like they want to prove you wrong. Does this make sense? They key is you have to own the issue and not make an excuse or try to dismiss it, but simply saying, you know you owe it, that you are sure it is in the fine print, you are at fault.

If there are any questions or I can clarify please ask. Also, if you haven't read the book, "How to Win Friends and Influence People" I strongly, strongly urge you to read it.

As naughty as this all is it is my desire to bring value and happiness to your life and help push you to be a better person. You have no idea how much happiness your support and erotic philanthropy has brought to mine....

XoXo,

KS